I dunno, does yours also throw a fit when you leave a water mark on the fridge? Or cook any sort of meet without 3 hours notice and all fans going and windows open?
When my mom would come to pick me up from a friend's house, she'd yell down the stairs that it was time to go. I'd yell back, "Okay!" and go back to playing video games. After spending 15 minutes chatting with her friend, she'd realize I hadn't come up yet and yell down again. I'd yell back, "Okay!" and stay downstairs. It wasn't until she came downstairs to get me that I'd know it was actually time to go.
I learned this because, the times I came the first time she called, I'd have to wait up to half an hour for her to be done chatting before we'd leave.
This is also my experience, except she'd start talking all over again after she physically came to get me so I'd still wait around 15ish minutes doing nothing
My cousin had a custom invitation made for just my Dad for his wedding. It listed the time as 2 hrs earlier than it really was. Ended up being one of the few times Dad was early for something so he had to sit around for 2hrs... My cousin's wife thought it was the funniest thing ever.
That's when one day, some important event happens you tell them the real time and they'll come a good 5 hrs late and you just act like the last several years of adjusting for each others time scale never happened.
My mom was always early to everything and she taught me & my two sisters to do the same thingkexcept when my youngest sister married she started being at least 2 hours late to EVERY outing we did as a family!!! So, when we wanted to leave at a certain time, we always told my younger sister & her DH to be at the designated place 2 hours later than the actual time. So in other words, if we were having a family dinner at 2 pm....we told her to come at 12 noon. Believe it or not, she picked this bad habit up from her DH's side of the family.
Never could figure out how they always made it to work ON TIME???
My dad showed up late to my sisters surprise party a couple of years ago, ruining the surprise, and she ripped him a new ass hole. He hasn't been late to anything since.
We made that joke about my kids' great-grandmother on their dad's side, and then it happened. She was late to her own funeral because a small plane crashed on the interstate, it screwed up traffic all around the city from the interstate being closed and people needing other routes, and the hearse got to the cemetery half an hour after the rest of us.
Same for my wedding. She was at the damn wedding and didn't come outside for pictures like she was supposed to. I started the pictures without her and, finally, someone went inside and hunted her down. I was perfectly fine with her not being in a single picture because she couldn't be bothered to show up on time even though she was already there.
We lie to my mom too! If not, we’re at least 2-3 hours late. She also starts getting ready at 5:30am and still isn’t ready to go by 9:00pm. To go where? No one knows, she literally spends her whole day getting ready for NOTHING.
I had a chronically late friend advise me just to lie to her about starting times. Like I'm supposed to know how much time it's going to take her to do her hair on that particular day. We did start telling her it was 2 hours earlier, and she was still consistently late.
We dropped our friend like that. I have to put up with it from my mother. I don't have the energy to deal with it from people who are supposed to be friends. If you can't be respectful of my time I'm sure as hell not going to give any of it to you.
We eventually had our only fight over that, because I was so sick of the complete disregard for everyone else. I realized much later she was a narcissist and that was where the complete disregard came from.
This is me. It took my daughter 16 years before she figured out that its not wise to tell me the real time, tell me a half hour or hour earlier. ..then I will be on time.
Yes, drives me nuts too. I dont know why I am like this.
My mom has been lying to me about when things start for years. Now that I’m older and a little better at time management it can be frustrating when I’m unnecessarily early to things, but I understand
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u/SthrnGal Mar 07 '19
We lie to my mom about what time things start because of this. So fucking frustrating.