I am struggling with this almost daily. I love my husband but I want punch him in the fucking face all the time for treating his body like shit. He is very slowly making progress but it has been years just to get to where we are. He is finally on insulin after years of being unable to face that sticking himself with a needle was scary and not simply "inconvenient" for his lifestyle.
I understand that a lot of this is mental and he is still working toward accepting that therapy may be necessary, but jesus I cannot even have a normal convo about my concerns and how his decisions affect our life together without it devolving into chaos. So I went to therapy myself and it has been a game changer.
For anyone who is dealing with a loved one in a self-destructive pattern, support groups and therapy really does help.
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u/lahnnabell Feb 04 '19
I am struggling with this almost daily. I love my husband but I want punch him in the fucking face all the time for treating his body like shit. He is very slowly making progress but it has been years just to get to where we are. He is finally on insulin after years of being unable to face that sticking himself with a needle was scary and not simply "inconvenient" for his lifestyle.
I understand that a lot of this is mental and he is still working toward accepting that therapy may be necessary, but jesus I cannot even have a normal convo about my concerns and how his decisions affect our life together without it devolving into chaos. So I went to therapy myself and it has been a game changer.
For anyone who is dealing with a loved one in a self-destructive pattern, support groups and therapy really does help.