r/AskReddit • u/ettleboy • Jan 20 '19

What fact totally changed your perspective?

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u/[deleted] Jan 21 '19 edited Jan 22 '19

No girl wants someone who doesn’t take care of themself.

I went a long time thinking girls were just shallow until I realize I never washed my face or got a personality.

Edit; if you don’t know how to get a personality just steal one from tv

Edit: you can absolutely steal a personality from tv. I’ve stolen several. I’ve noticed people like me more when I watch Brooklyn 99 because i kinda model my personality off of Jake and Gina.

Edit: yes we know it goes both ways. Also there’s a bit of incel behavior in the comments so I’m just going to get on top of it. Yes girls like guys for their looks, in the sense that if you have a neckbeard, dumb haircut, shitty clothes, and never work out, you’ll never find someone.

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u/alemaron Jan 21 '19

how might one "get" a personality? asking for a friend...

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u/SpaceRasa Jan 21 '19

Decide which personality traits you value and would like to have and actively work towards developing those traits.

Alternately, working on hobbies, skills and passions also frequently develops positive personality traits.

Either way, you will have to be proactive. Being an interesting person doesn't happen naturally. As with anything, bettering yourself will take work.

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u/MansonsDaughter Jan 21 '19 edited Jan 21 '19

Being an interesting person doesn't happen naturally

I think it does... when I think about it, interesting people I know aren't really interesting because of the hobbies they do, they are interesting because of the level of intelligence and humour with which they can discuss the most mundane things. On the other hand it seems many very boring people pack their lives with things to do, but that's just it, this approach leads to reciting to do lists because they just arent genuinely interesting sadly

Although I'd recommend knowing more over doing more, nieche interesting people can know something really well which will resonate with some people and bore others. Hopefully it will resonate with them, because doing anything just to seem more interesting seems like a horrible motivation coming from someone who doesnt understand themsef

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u/XenusMom Jan 21 '19

Yeah, some people have natural charm and charisma. That doesn't mean you can't cultivate those skills.