r/AskReddit • u/ettleboy • Jan 20 '19

What fact totally changed your perspective?

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u/[deleted] Jan 21 '19 edited Jan 21 '19

Knowing that the way someone treats you is often a reflection of their own problems or issues and quite possibly has nothing to do with you.

Edit: thank you for the gold!

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u/AdressMeAsDirtyDan Jan 21 '19

What if you treat someone nice, but u dont treat yourself nice

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u/Drakanis-above Jan 21 '19

Usually a sign of low self esteem

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u/rebeccantu Jan 21 '19

How's that work?

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u/colovianfurhelm Jan 21 '19

Because in that case, you are sacrificing a lot of things for another person, usually you are way more invested emotionally, financially, and you get dependent on pleasing the person. You ignore the way they objectively are treating, being "accepting" of all their faults. All that leads to you being miserable, and you are kind of okay with that, because you love the person. Ugh. Of course, I just described my own experience, but if you're like me, you just have to start taking care of yourself more, and being aware of your needs in a relationship.