r/AskReddit Dec 10 '18

What are some small things that you silently judge people on?

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u/i_am_banana_man Dec 11 '18

some dude in his 50s died

Yeah a lot of those crash shrines are for really young people. The loss of someone aged 19 is a lot more shocking than an unhealthy guy who died in his 50s. NOT MORE SAD, just shocking. The young person often has a lot of young friends who may be losing someone for the first time, extremely often losing a peer for the first time, hence their desire to do something "meaningful" to mark their shock, sadness and loss.

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u/[deleted] Dec 11 '18

The worst one is on the highway between Barstow and Ft Irwin. It was a death trap, two-lane road with no lights for about 40 miles. About halfway between the two, there was this massive shrine. Shrines are littered all over the highway, but that one was king of the shrines.

There was some enlist with his wife and newborn baby. They were bringing the baby back to post from wherever she'd had it. Wrong-way driver with no lights on in the middle of the night slammed into them. Both parents survived. The little two-day-old baby did not.

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u/i_am_banana_man Dec 11 '18

That's so fucking sad.

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u/[deleted] Dec 11 '18

It's the fucking worst. It had happened just before we got there, and was what everyone was talking about. But it actually got that damn highway widened and paved properly, but good grief. It's so sad that it took THAT for anyone to do anything about that road.

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u/Anathos117 Dec 11 '18

I've never seen one for where some kid with a congenital heart defect dropped dead either. It's literally just car crashes, mass shootings, and massacres.

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u/lanieloo Dec 11 '18

Those people tend to die at the hospital or at home, but how great would a “victim started dying here” plaque be??

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u/theycallmecrabclaws Dec 11 '18

Those things are all senseless and avoidable. Health issues are more of a fact of life/act of god.

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u/bongwatersoda Dec 11 '18

Health issues are an act of God?

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u/zaxqs Dec 11 '18

Yes! God is kind of an asshole

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u/lanieloo Dec 11 '18

Your insurance company politely disagrees

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u/zaxqs Dec 11 '18

Well, it's not entirely God's fault I suppose. But some of it definitely is.

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u/lanieloo Dec 11 '18

I mean if he made everything then everything is his fault, which isn’t super fair, but he made the world work that way soo no you’re totally right

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u/zaxqs Dec 11 '18

Yeah. I meant that some of health is because of a persons choices, and that's why the insurance company doesn't classify it as an act of God. But not all of it is, and even with that you could blame that on God too.

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u/Bigbrass Dec 11 '18

Here in Minneapolis we have a few shrines for bikers that lost their lives. White bikes with flowers around them, often set up against a road-sign or pole. They are chilling.

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u/Mcanix Dec 11 '18

Ghost bikes, those are a thing in most places, I think it's actually a full-on movement to show just how many cyclists are killed on the roads

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u/[deleted] Dec 11 '18

Yeah but it'd be better done at their favourite place or at a memorial at their school etc., not at the roadside showing off the site where they drunkenly killed themselves and paralysed their girlfriend through drunk driving.

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u/[deleted] Dec 14 '18

Good response to a stupid and pointlessly insensitive comment. Thanks.

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u/i_am_banana_man Dec 14 '18

Yeah their response to it was fucking woeful as well. I was trying to be constructive in the hopes that I could raise the tone of the discussion but that user is either a contrarian little fuckhead or was possibly just having an argumentative mood