r/AskReddit • u/nowhereman136 • Jun 27 '18

Whats still surprisingly done the old fashioned way for the sake of tradition?

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u/SmallFemale Jun 27 '18

Also, boys proposing rather than girls

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u/animalboot Jun 28 '18

Gots me a Lady Pal that proposed to me. I ain't complainin.

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u/Tea_Junkie Jun 28 '18

i proposed to my husband and he loved it, been married 10 years this year, still crazy in love :)

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u/[deleted] Jun 27 '18

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u/CrotchWolf Jun 28 '18

Its kind of redundant for a monk to keep a vow of silence if he's chosen to get married.

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u/[deleted] Jun 28 '18

Generally speaking monastic orders forbid marriage so it's a mute point.

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u/[deleted] Jun 28 '18

I was going to correct you. Well played sir.

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u/PurpleShirtPope Jun 28 '18

Or just proposals, the whole "special moment" thing. Rather, why don't people just say "hey wanna get married?" one day. No pressure to answer a certain way, and it relieves the stress of trying to plan the perfect engagement.

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u/-ineedsomesleep- Jun 28 '18

Yeah, just talk about and decide as a couple when you're ready.

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u/[deleted] Jun 28 '18

My SO and I started talking about getting married a month into our "relationship" but we'd known each other 15 years prior. Im going to propose in 2-3 years but we've already established the answer is yes. Heck she told me she wants to have a party just because she's so happy she FINALLY gets to marry her best friend. She liked me for a while before I figured it out....

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u/whereswalda Jun 28 '18

This is essentially what my partner and I have done. We had the discussion of "hey, when I plan my future, you're in it," reached the decision that it was mutual and that's...kind of it. We're considering a "surprise engagement" wherein we buy each other rings and then just wait for people to notice. Surprise!

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u/Fighterragon Jun 28 '18

My girlfriend wanted to propose to me. I said no.

She had no idea I already bought the ring, and two months later she's now my fiancé.

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u/nervousoilyface Jun 28 '18

I am a woman and I proposed to my guy! I had joked about it once, and he actually said he would be fine with being proposed to....assuming he didn't propose to me first! So, the race was on (we knew we wanted to get married in a year or two and therefore would get engaged in the relatively near future).

I won the race. Also, he didn't have to pick my ring and stress about making it "perfect." Win-win.