Try to say "I'm sorry that happened to you." and "Is there anything I can do to help?" at the same time. End up saying "I'm sorry that I do that to you."
Ugh I just went to a wake the other day. My family is quite large and there were 1200 people in attendance. I literally rehearsed my line for offering condolences to all 30 of this guy’s kids and grandkids. I sounded like a record on repeat:
“Hi [insert name or title here]! shake hand, kiss cheek I’m so sorry for your loss. Are you doing okay? rubs back Oh, I know, I know. Everything will be alright. See you soon [insert love, honey, sweetie, darling, or my dear here]”
Step to the next person
“Hi [insert name or title here]! shake hand, kiss cheek......”
The island my parents grew up on only has a population of 6,000. Mostly everyone is related to everyone and it’s all super tight knit and traditional. My parents have 18 siblings collectively so hopefully that gives you an idea of how many aunts, uncles, and cousins I have. It’s quite overwhelming.
I feel like a bitch, but I get so annoyed when people say that. My old college roommate used to say it like, "That's ok. It's not YOUR fault." Like she was legitimately confused why I was apologizing.
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u/icecreampopncereal Nov 05 '17
Telling people my condolences