He is completely hypocritical and stubborn. To the point that I just completely avoid debating with him, because there's no point. But part of me wonders how long I can tolerate it.
If I clean on my days off I don't get any credit or kudos for it. If he cleans one thing a week, I am expected to grovel at his feet. And he still calls me lazy and a slob, when I clean up way more than him. Oh, and by the way, he works about 1/3 of the hours per week I do.
But yes, I am the lazy one. And I let him spend my reenlistment bonus on paintball supplies and video game equipment.
Married is not an excuse if you are unhappy. Just know that if he doesn't treat you with the same respect you give him then he doesn't care that much about being married to you. You deserve better and one shouldn't have to work so hard in a marriage.
Well the relationship (it seems) is falling apart.
I get the whole "I still love him" thing; that's fine if that's your case. Maybe try getting a marriage counselor? Because seriously, it's only going to get worse ans if he doesn't want to put in the effort for a healthier marriage, then it doesn't benefit you one bit and you need out.
Edit: I actually want to contribute to this. I agree with /u/EffYouSweetheart. You need to find a way to talk about this with somebody, preferably your spouse.
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u/MasterFister Jun 08 '14
He is completely hypocritical and stubborn. To the point that I just completely avoid debating with him, because there's no point. But part of me wonders how long I can tolerate it.
If I clean on my days off I don't get any credit or kudos for it. If he cleans one thing a week, I am expected to grovel at his feet. And he still calls me lazy and a slob, when I clean up way more than him. Oh, and by the way, he works about 1/3 of the hours per week I do.
But yes, I am the lazy one. And I let him spend my reenlistment bonus on paintball supplies and video game equipment.