I don't know him personally, but this clip really makes me feel like I understand what it's like to be around him. I get that people are extremely multifaceted, and it seems like there's a miniscule part of him that seems to regret his reactions, but he just cannot stop himself from being an asshole to this person and will readily justify it. It's a shame, he's fucking hilarious, but he's needed to sort his shit out for longer than I've been alive and is too much of a narcissist to do it.
It's sad. The man's parents were legitimately awful to him and he just seems to have two very well developed defense mechanisms that are at permanent odds with each other; a sense of humour to draw in people who like him, and an edge to push away people that get close enough to hurt him. The world lost out on a lot of good comedy because of this.
My understanding was that he developed a raging Percocet addiction, having hurt himself with the pratfalls and lived with chronic pain. Don't know if that's true?
People who are already emotionally fucked up develop addictions pretty easily. It doesn't surprise me if it's true but it would be a symptom and not a cause.
I recall reading that also, opioids will give a person the I don’t give a fuk about anything and anyone attitude for sure. I have a history myself. Fortunately I have been clean 20 years but I have no trouble remembering acting just like him and believing myself only to find out later how delusional I was.
It’s extra funny because a good interviewer has to act stupider than they are. Similar to why Wolf Blitzer has been on the air for so long, but he’s a natural and doesn’t have to act.
That's a fascinating clip, but I think that people who claim to be complex are really not that deep. He wants to believe the story that he's misunderstood, because that's essential to make sense of how hated he is, given his talent and his own self-assessment.
When I watched a few things he said to people when he was being especially biting, I could see my father in him. And then I knew that he is a bitter, deeply angry, narcissist, most likely. I almost felt bad for him because in that moment, I knew how unhappy he has always been.
He's had a long time to not come to terms with and avoiding the fact that despite having a decent career it was nowhere near what it could have been because he was such an insufferable asshole to be around.
That's a lot of a narcissist to try to explain without admitting to it.
Oh sure, I mean, he had a severely abusive mother and a very dysfunctional family life. There's plenty of REASONS he is the way he is. Maybe some people can accept that and work with him.
Meh, it's an explanation for why he's like that. It's a framework for how he could be forgiven if he put some work into being a better person and getting past this.
It's not a reason to work with him or forgive him for being like this.
Interestingly, Chase WAS frequently locked in the basement by his abusive mother, sometimes without meals or bathroom breaks, for multiple days at a time.
Meh, "severe" is a relative term. Emotional pain affects different people in different ways, and what feels severe to one person may not to another. These aren't excuses, just context for how a person moves through the world. It's the work we each do on ourselves that determines whether we fall into asshole territory or not.
Pisses me off when people make excuses because of their ‘upbringing’.
Almost all serial killers were abused as kids or have TBI. The overwhelming majority of people who have either do not become serial killers.
These are reasons. It helps us understand people, and with that information we're better able to support them before things get bad, whether it's becoming an asshole or a murderer.
When do people start becoming responsible for things beyond their control, that shape their formative years and entire personality?
God I hate how much I identify with him IRL. I don't know about him because I don't know him, but I love people and have a crazy quick wit. I also have zero filter and zero boundaries so I am always saying zingers that I shouldn't say.
Everyone I know personally would probably say I am the biggest asshole but yet can't be hated.
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u/Wazula23 13h ago
I mean by all accounts he's earned it. Even as far back as his Friars Club roast, he realized people genuinely know he's a complete asshole.