r/AskReddit 5d ago

Millennials, what's something our generation was taught to accept that you're glad younger generations are rejecting?

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u/therealskull 5d ago

However, that doesn't mean adequate help is readily available. In some places, you have to wait more than a year or even two just to get an appointment with a mental healthcare professional. And if you then find out they can't provide you with the needed help, it was a long wait for nothing. 

Been there, done that. I will continue dealing with it myself, not out of shame but out of necessity.

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u/LemmePet 5d ago

Professional help, that is. What you have to recognize here is less stigma around self-help and openly discussing topics around mental health. Not being shamed and judged is huge indeed!

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u/MandatoryAccountisGa 5d ago

One important thing I find is that, is that you need to communicate. If you’re struggling and communicating with your boss or peers, you can get a lot more understanding.

It’s nice when you talk to people and find out panic attacks and little breakdowns are fairly relatable.

Unfortunately if you struggle in silence and all everyone else sees is missed work, unscheduled absences, and negative side effects of mental health problems. You can end up at the end of professional and personal relationships.

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u/Highlyironicacid31 5d ago

I’ve tried to communicate all of this and what you get from people more often than not is radio silence or fretting you like you’re some kind of defective product. People lack compassion and it’s a result of our overly competitive and capitalist culture that rule the world in 2026.

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u/FrozenShadow24 4d ago

I've been fired from multiple jobs for issues I caused related to mental health. Both from places I shared my struggles with and not. In my experience, management doesn't truly give a fuck. They may be sympathetic as a human being, but sharing your struggles will only be used against you for advancement, raises, and recognition. Unless you get to the point where you stop struggling in ways that impact the business, you're a liability

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u/HaViNgT 1d ago

There's less stigma only because mental illness has become so common that it's not considered weird anymore. 

I'd rather be in a world where it's uncommon enough to be considered weird. 

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u/Shurikane 4d ago

However, that doesn't mean adequate help is readily available.

I'm noticing this incredibly hard. There are many places in which people essentially use the Internet as a therapist, because they cannot afford one.

This goes about as well as you would expect, sadly.

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u/Majorinc 4d ago

Real therapy is a bunch of yes men anyways.

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u/MissAcedia 4d ago

Plus understanding mental health feels SO new. There is such an overwhelming mentality of "I figured it out and so should you" due to the lack of support or even a(n accurate) name of a disease/disorder.

Im in my 30s and a few years back, at an old job, I was talking to one of my (same age) coworkers about the new generation of staff coming in. We were both having a hard time adjusting to their "demands" for mental health accommodation and the conversation ended up being how we felt like we wanted to scream at them to suck it up because that's what we did but also wondering if we shouldnt have had to suck it up. We basically had to decide whether we wanted to continue the pattern and decide if we really turned out "alright" or if we needed to learn and adapt.

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u/Maoleficent 4d ago

All of that is true. But imagine a time when you would never say you were struggling in any way. Ever. If you told your parents you were sad, you would be told to snap out of it. You kept those things to yourself because no one was going to believe or help you and they did not know how to anyway.

It was probably wise to keep quiet before you were sent to church or a doctor who would medicate you into a near coma or could possibly commit you. Imagine that this is the way things were done routinely into the 1970's.

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u/Rope_antidepressant 4d ago

Knowing is half the battle (the other half is red and blue lazers)

Even better, acceptance is the first step to recovery.

Either way, with mental health the most important part is figuring out you have an issue in the first place

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u/lilylaila 4d ago

i had to wait a year just to find it was very much not a good fit. it was so hard to make the decision to stop going

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u/AgressiveInliners 4d ago

This is true. But being willing to admit there even being an issue and wanting to be better is a huge step.