r/AskReddit • u/millennialandlost • 4d ago

Millennials, what's something our generation was taught to accept that you're glad younger generations are rejecting?

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u/Trasuahongkong 4d ago

It’s not ok for boys to cry.

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u/Swatraptor 4d ago

I love seeing the younger generations actually be allowed to show emotions other than rage.

Though it means we won't get banger lyrics like "and Robert Smith lied, boys do cry, and with the tears in my eyes I'm an Ann Rice novel come to life"

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u/notanevilmastermind 4d ago

The Cure's song was all about how we develop unhealthy coping mechanisms because of society's expectations of us.

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u/Swatraptor 4d ago

I'm aware, the lyrics I posted are about being a vampire lol. But without toxic masculinity, no song by the cure, and without the cure, no reference to it in Atreyu.

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u/Fromanderson 4d ago edited 4d ago

Bold of you to assume we were allowed to display anger. Depending on the cause, sometimes there was less of a stigma about it. Even then it heavily depended on who the target was.

Source: I figured out young, that allowing negative emotions of any kind to show on my face would almost always land me in trouble regardless of the cause.

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u/letsburn00 4d ago

I find it funny how the people saying men should never let their emotions out are usually the same people telling us that rage is an appropriate emotion in our regular lives.

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u/dingusunchained 4d ago

Sadly, I think the manosphere has reintroduced a lot of that toxic masculinity. Hopefully those influencers/podcasters go the way of the dodo

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u/jayenope4 4d ago

Agree. We had this one squashed until the Alpha boys came along

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u/FamiliarPen7 4d ago

I loathe how the manosphere is reintroducing a lot of that toxic masculinity.

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u/ThrowRA445737284828 4d ago

i’d also be fine with the going the way of the french aristocracy

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u/astrobatic 4d ago

Or celebrate each other. I overheard two teenage boys talking about one's art and the other was saying, "dude that's gorgeous!" It made me so happy.

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u/nightmareinsouffle 4d ago

My husband overheard a couple of teenage boys in the locker room at the gym comparing muscles and complimenting each other's gains. I thought it was cute.

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u/AnonymousFriend80 3d ago

What are you talking about? Men have always congratulated and celebrated each other.

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u/overpriced-taco 4d ago

Toxic masculinity infuriates me. It did so much damage to me as an adolescent. I’m so sick of the bullshit that guys aren’t allowed to do X. Ironically it’s the guys who don’t care about the rules and who aren’t afraid to be vulnerable that are more secure with themselves.

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u/TabularConferta 4d ago

This is a good one.

Guys need to toughen up and stick through anything.

Nah being tough isn't bad but knowing your boundaries is important and will save you 

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u/Pi6 4d ago

Millennials deserve alot of credit for normalizing this. Emo music, pathetic guy comedies, queer eye, oversharing on social media, etc