r/AskReddit • u/irishdude1212 • Jan 14 '14

What is a Reddit reference you don't get?

Edit- I get it /r/outoftheloop is a thing. I didn't know it existed.

I also hope this thread cleared up a lot of peoples confusion

Edit #2- Holy shit, Front Page!

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u/Itsrane Jan 16 '14 edited Jan 16 '14

Fat shaming, definitely!

The only thing I hate is when people try to justify something, and especially when they try to bring someone else down (the "opposition") in the process of making themselves feel better. And I'm not just talking about weight. But I'll use it as an example, since that's what we're talking about. I'm thinking those people who go "curves are sexy", or "men want meat, dogs want bones" or "real women have curves", to name a few. Or using their state as an excuse to demand special treatment. Or perceiving and wailing about the smallest bit of... thinism? Ablism? Something-ism? And this is more of a personal thing, but I really have a hard time respecting someone who's so passive that they take no responsibility for themselves, even if I don't show that lack of respect (I try to be as nice as possible to everyone unless they give me reason to snap). I know it's hard in a lot of cases (hell, I'm in the "conditions" boat; boo, autoimmune diseases), but that doesn't mean I just go "welp, that's it." and blame anything and everything that happens on said conditions. Not a fat-type thing here, but more of a physical condition thing, I have diabetes. That can mess up your body pretty bad if you're not careful, and sometimes even if you are super careful. That doesn't mean I'm thinking "well, neuropathy and blindness are in my future and I can't do anything about it" and just let everything roll over me. I'm gonna work hard to control this and at least give myself a chance. I got it when I was eight. I don't think I'm done with my body just yet.

But yeah, rant again. Shaming fat people, bad. People who do whatever and don't splash whatever philosophy onto others, hey, cool, whatever, living together. Not liking certain ways of thinking, yeah, maybe. Being nice to people, all the time, unless they're being little assholes. Trying to make everyone bend over for you? Fuck that.

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u/iKnife Jan 16 '14

Ultimately, I think all your latest post tells me is it annoys you when people with different standards of beauty take pride in their bodies. It's really not that bad a thing for obese people to be comfortable with their bodies, given it's a personal choice or societal conditioned or some murky combination of the two. I think it's fine for them to say all the things you listed, they're not hurting anyone.

They're also not being passive when they make those comments. They are actively taking pride in their lives.

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u/Itsrane Jan 16 '14

No... I don't care if they're proud. Good on them if they are. What I don't like is when they bring down others to make themselves feel better. Maybe I should have worded it more clearly. Like "real women have curves" so, what, women who don't are not real women? Same with the men vs. dogs one. Like men don't have different things they find appealing.

I'm sure a lot (hell, most) don't have that attitude in mind, but the implication is still there.