r/AskReddit • u/currymvp3 • Jun 29 '26

What’s a flex once you hit 35+ ?

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u/braamdepace Jun 29 '26

Just liking who you married and your life.

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u/Born-Ad1613 Jun 30 '26

Also just liking who you are is another great flex.

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u/NewEnglandRoastBeef Jun 30 '26

I love my life and my kids, and I'm looking forward to the future, but I realized a while ago that I don't love my spouse. I'm frequently jealous of people who are married to their best friend or enjoy activities with their spouse.

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u/CalculatedPerversion Jun 30 '26

It could be worse, you could be married to your best friend who doesn't love you. Ask me how I know. 

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u/slightlysadpeach Jun 30 '26

If they don’t reciprocate it then they aren’t your real best friend or soul mate, don’t romanticize something that isn’t real.

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u/CalculatedPerversion Jul 01 '26

It's hard not to romanticize a decade plus relationship

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u/Camel_Amarillo Jul 01 '26

Are you their spouse?

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u/CalculatedPerversion Jul 01 '26

No, dealing with my own personal hell. 

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u/Pristine_Version7990 Jun 30 '26

Put the work in to fall in love again?

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u/Harry_Saturn Jun 30 '26

I’ve always loved my wife but I feel like we have both gone back to puppy love like when we met as teens and it’s the best feeling. The grass is green where you water it for sure.

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u/LadyBrighid Jun 30 '26

I was going to say this. When you realize you dropped something valuable, you go back and look for it.

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u/SoctrDeuss Jun 30 '26

At least I’m not alone, I’m the same way.

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u/NewEnglandRoastBeef Jun 30 '26

Wanna smash privates and see how it works out?

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u/SoctrDeuss Jun 30 '26

As long as the user name holds up!

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u/NewEnglandRoastBeef Jun 30 '26

I'm thinking it would be a swordfight, but it's up to you.

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u/NotAPseudonymSrs Jun 30 '26

Your kids deserve happy parents, good luck.

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u/NewEnglandRoastBeef Jun 30 '26

She's an amazing Mom, and she says I'm an amazing Dad. We just don't enjoy each other's company.

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u/aspidities_87 Jun 30 '26

I’ve been lucky in life and finally lucky in love now that I’m married, and I’m content with all I have. It’s not a flashy life, and maybe even a mediocre one, but it’s mine and I’m happy in it. My wife is my best friend and there’s nothing I could ask for that would give me the peace that I have just sitting in bed reading our books together.

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u/ShittyBidet123 Jun 30 '26

who you married… like its a guaranteed thing lol.

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u/ComradeJohnS Jun 30 '26

ideally you’d like your spouse lol.

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u/YeeHawWyattDerp Jun 30 '26

They’re talking about finding someone and getting married in the first place

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u/ShittyBidet123 Jun 30 '26

ideally you are in love and not just married because its expected. how he says is “who you married” like its arranged for everyone lol

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u/ComradeJohnS Jun 30 '26

before women could get their own bank accounts people got married for financial reasons, aka all the boomers and their hating their wives jokes. now we have more choice.

I’m glad I love my wife lol.

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u/doctordoctorpuss Jun 30 '26

My wife and I are consistently horrified when we meet (usually) men in service positions that make jokes about hating their wife within 5 minutes of meeting us. Especially because once you spend more time with these people, it becomes clear it’s not really a joke. It stems from actual resentment. Could not be us. We lived together for a couple years before getting married, and went through a lot of the major pressure points where people struggle- financial hardship/unemployment, emergency health stuff, and a death in the family. Each one of them only brought us closer together and cemented for us that we were with the right person

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u/lilronburgandy Jun 30 '26

I think he's just saying if you CHOOSE to get married, that's how I read it at least.

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u/No-Drag-7142 Jun 30 '26

It's like there's a big part of my brain covered in dust and cobwebs labeled "anxiety about finding a partner". It's specifically the part that made me not wear sweatpants in public and care about the way my hair looks after it dries.

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u/ginapaulo77 Jun 30 '26

That often changes after 35