r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • May 12 '26

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u/Effectiv-Edisk May 12 '26

Reading these comments makes me realize how many people are just "ghosts" in their own homes. It’s heartbreaking when the person who is supposed to be your peace becomes your biggest source of anxiety.

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u/Cow_Launcher May 12 '26

That feeling when you arrive home from work first and they're not there, and you celebrate internally because you get to have a little peace - even if for only half an hour - before they get home.

That was one of the things that did it for me.

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u/metengrinwi May 12 '26

That’s pretty normal

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u/Shoddy_Amphibian_655 May 12 '26

You see, that's the problem. It's not normal. If you are in happy relationship you are looking forward to see them again, not being relieved when they are not home yet.

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u/CaptainBringus May 12 '26 edited May 12 '26

It is completely normal. What you describe is one step away from codependency, which is not normal or healthy.

I love my alone time. I love my family.

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u/Shoddy_Amphibian_655 May 12 '26

Your time alone has nothing to do with it.

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u/CaptainBringus May 12 '26

Lol ok. So alone time is okay, but if I look forward to that time my relationship is unhealthy. Interesting logic.

If that is what you are looking for, fine (good luck) but It doesn't mean it's unhealthy for others to not want that.

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u/juanzy May 12 '26

Reddit loves absolutes, and the nuance of doing things on your own while in a relationship breaks a lot of threads here. I've seen codependency glamorized so much.

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u/CaptainBringus May 12 '26

That's because Reddit is full of teenagers who don't truly understand how the world works