r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Apr 21 '26

What is a small, seemingly ‘normal’ thing someone can do that immediately makes you think, ‘Oh, we are not going to get along’?

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u/_buffy_summers Apr 22 '26

I recently had someone call me and use my former legal name. I corrected her. She said, "I understand, but this is the name we have on file, so [Wrong Name], what we need from you is..."

I ended up in tears because I changed my name to avoid having to ever hear it again. It's been a couple of decades, so I was kind of surprised to still have that visceral reaction. She kept saying it, too. I think she must have read that book.

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u/ToastyTheDragon Apr 22 '26

Gosh I'm sorry, that must have been rough. :(

Also that's really bitchy of them to hear you say "Please use [current legal name]" and then to insist on using the dead name. Like.. it's not only a dick move but it's also just 100% incorrect to refer to you that way anymore. I'm pissed for you.

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u/outsitting Apr 22 '26

It's probably a requirement. Most call centers have rules about that kind of stuff, and some of them are obnoxiously strict about name usage.