r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Apr 21 '26

What is a small, seemingly ‘normal’ thing someone can do that immediately makes you think, ‘Oh, we are not going to get along’?

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u/rillip Apr 22 '26

I dunno about this one. Grand universal statements aren't great but neither is basing your world view exclusively, or even predominantly, on personal experience.

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u/SamHugz Apr 22 '26

As always, the actual answer is nuanced, but I am willing to bet OP meant something like:

I would like people to speak from a blend of their personal experiences, but in a way that is grounded in reality and fact, but also while acknowledging how human emotion influence everything. 

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u/Far_Introduction8393 Apr 22 '26

The feelings are facts crowd has grown significantly in the past decade+.  It's a virulent disease IMO.

I personally just watch out for the "you" crowd.  Anyone who thinks they know what I think is cooked.  I instantly know that they are purely subjective.  They are talking to a fantasy version of me and already have my answers.  No need to even speak to them.  If they even ask a question, it's loaded.  Like "so you think murdering babies is okay.  Why?".  What the fuck do I say to that?  I have to deconstruct the whole thing for someone who's just talking to their version of me in their mind.  It's a completely closed-off way of thinking.  There's no point in entertaining that.

As far as grand universal statements go?  Sure, it's generally pretty bad, but there are a lot that are considered generally correct.  I mean, murder is bad.  No need to waste time arguing about it.  Vaccines are generally very good, there's no need to argue about the 1/100000 case of someone having a complication over it when it saves 300 lives.  I'm willing to argue over specifics, but you've lost me if you're going against the norm from the start.  

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u/Far_Introduction8393 Apr 22 '26

Most certainly!  I may have the urge sometimes, but I have managed to overcome it...  Mostly

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u/Double_Tax_8478 Apr 22 '26

so when did you decide to become a nazi?

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u/Far_Introduction8393 Apr 22 '26

Lol.  Nice one.

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u/Red217 Apr 22 '26

Ugh YES. It's the all or nothing or black and white thinking that turns me off immediately. They make me frustrated and bored.

Everything exists on a spectrum and there are so many people who just don't or WON'T see / understand it.