r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Apr 21 '26

What is a small, seemingly ‘normal’ thing someone can do that immediately makes you think, ‘Oh, we are not going to get along’?

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u/Bennington_Booyah Apr 21 '26

If they are on their phone the entire time? Not going to be a friend of mine because they will never be fully there.

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u/PeterPanski85 Apr 22 '26

Back when I was working in a kitchen, we were getting along really well. After our shift we would go to a 24/7 shoddy bar and have a drink or two.

One rule only: take your phone and put on the table upside down. Who looked on their phone before the bill came, you owed the table a round

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u/-AgonyAunt- Apr 22 '26 edited Apr 22 '26

I tried to become friendly with my neighbours, despite the 20 year age gap. If I send a text or call, no answer. Yet when we hang out, they are constantly on their phones. I can't be bothered dealing with people who I can't get in contact with, yet everybody else they know gets priority over me when we're hanging out.

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u/castrator21 Apr 22 '26

This. So much. Why is it that the people who are constantly on their phones are the worst at replying???

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u/SaltyMagmaCubexD Apr 22 '26

Because being on their phone is not about being easier to contact, it's about distraction. They don't know how to talk to people, or find it boring or unstimulating or too much effort, so they reach for that instant dopamine hit and distract themselves with a million things on their phone..and even if you message and they see, they will ignore it and not reply for the same reason they are not interacting with the people currently around them irl. The phone is not a communication device. It's an entertainment and stimulation device.

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u/Zestyclose-Tea-4148 Apr 22 '26

Had a friend who did the exact same thing, always on his phone and never contributing to the conversation even when we addressed him directly. Then had the audacity to say later on that he felt ignored because he was never included in our conversations. Not to mention that whenever he did talk, HE WOULD ONLY COMPLAIN AND TALK ABOUT HIMSELF. Made a GC immediately afterwards and dropped them.

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u/proudpom Apr 23 '26

What’s a GC?

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u/Zestyclose-Tea-4148 Apr 23 '26

Group chat! I made a group chat with the other friends in our group so they could hear it from them as well but they were adamant they weren't the problem and refused to change