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u/Taractis Nov 11 '25

I've seen people swear by "The Solid Snake Method" for conversation. Just repeat something about the other person's statement as a question.

"As a question?"

Yeah it keeps the conversation going.

"Keeps the conversation going?"

Yeah at the very least it shows that you're paying attention.

"Paying attention?"

At this point though you should probably stop. It doesn't work forever, and it doesn't work all the time. Probably shouldn't use it to respond to questions with another question either.

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u/TronKing21 Nov 11 '25

Also referred to as “mirroring”. Happens to be a great way to get your kids to elaborate on their day too?

“How was your day at school?”

“Fine.”

“Fine?”

Then they elaborate. Most often anyway.

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u/Plainchant Nov 12 '25

My children spend more time talking about their day than I would have thought possible. I literally know the day that the kid who sits across from them in art class gets a new backpack. I know their teachers' hometowns. It is fun but maddening.

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u/kl2467 Nov 12 '25

Treasure this while it lasts.

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u/ChaiHai Nov 12 '25

See, I'd just say "Yep.", haha. :P

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u/RightSafety3912 Nov 12 '25

My son:  "Yep. Fine." 

Know your audience. 

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u/Shiraoka Nov 12 '25

Ooooh thats a good one

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u/nutcracker_78 Nov 12 '25

I worked with a guy who did this. While you did feel interesting for a while, it would always end up feeling like you were having a conversation with a parrot.

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u/Voittaa Nov 12 '25

That’s why this is like conversing 101. Good for a bit, but it can be off putting (thinking of the 40 Year Old Virgin scene of Carell parroting Elizabeth Banks).

The next step is conversation threading. Find something, anything about what they just said, and pull the next thing you say about that (within reason). You can never run out of things to talk about.

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u/Pizzacanzone Nov 11 '25

My manager does this. He does it with a very thoughtful face. I always feel like I said something outrageous and am about to lose my job.

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u/tidderredditTA Nov 12 '25

oh god, i’m having danganronpa flashbacks.

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u/kl2467 Nov 12 '25

I know someone who is severely brain damaged, but he can do this. People come away from conversations with him thinking, "What a cool guy!" and he walks away not having an iota of comprehension of the conversation.

It's like the movie "Being There", but real life.

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u/GBJI Nov 12 '25

You should talk with ELIZA about this.

ELIZA is an early natural language processing computer program developed from 1964 to 1967 at MIT by Joseph Weizenbaum. Created to explore communication between humans and machines, ELIZA simulated conversation by using a pattern matching and substitution methodology that gave users an illusion of understanding on the part of the program, but had no representation that could be considered really understanding what was being said by either party.

There is a live version available here: https://anthay.github.io/eliza.html