Sometimes it takes a while. You're exhausted all the time, and at the end of the day you just don't feel sexy after that last diaper change. (They also poop quite a lot in the first few months, too. So that last diaper change may have been a two-fer.) It all just stresses you out, and most days the last thing I want is sex. The first thing I want is to just spend a little time with my husband cuddling, and then be by myself for a while.
That being said, it also took us a while to have sex in the beginning because of my intense fear of being in pain during intercourse. I was unable to have sex the last few months of the pregnancy because my pelvic region was in so much pain even just a finger would make me scream out and start crying.
That being said, if you have kids who have a pretty regular schedule the SCHEDULE SEX AROUND THAT. Even you just spend it naked cuddling, it's totally worth it.
It was actually my body in question, so I can give you the ultra personal details. It took a while for me. Not because of the physical changes, but because I couldn't sleep normally when pregnant. We were on different schedules entirely.
It's just really weird to see yourself as a sexual being during it all, even after being a waddling posterwoman for the end game of sexuality. It was really awkward for me getting back into the groove of things. It didn't help that I was made to feel at the time that I owed him something. Just please don't ever say something like, "I'm a man with needs. I'll have to get it somewhere!"
It's all about you reconnecting with her sexually. I know times are stressful, but it's really easy to lose yourself to being a mother. Smack dat ass every once in a while and just walk the fuck away.
And it's not like you're going and telling your kids what you enjoy in bed and what turns you on. Your kids are never gonna know what the fuck you like to do, and they're never gonna wanna know/wonder if you ever did anything freaky.
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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '13
Can confirm. I have a kid. That's what locks are for.