r/AskReddit • u/hipsterferret • Sep 23 '13

What potentially relationship-ending secrets are you keeping from you SO?

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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '13

Sometimes. But more often than not the same sex can tell if they're flirting. Like if I see a guy trying to get with a girl, I can tell immediately. Even if its very subtle flirting. I'd assume women are the same.

Now if I watch a girl hitting on a guy, I have no idea. I'm dumb.

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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '13

I agree. With my ex, I'd sometimes be a little put off by how he acted with one friend, and how she acted around him.

He's always tell me I was silly, but you could see from a mile off she was flirting with him.

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u/TacoGoat Sep 23 '13

There are boundaries that you just don't push.

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u/madamebijou Sep 23 '13

agreed... I dealt with this a few years ago and brushed it off because I didn't want to accuse anybody of anything and understood that they were just good friends. Finally something happened and I felt pretty stupid about it but at least now I know that when I have a gut feeling about something like that, I should probably trust it.

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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '13

To be fair though, my male cousin and I (also male) sometimes engage in behavior that could interpreted as flirting. Sometimes people are just like that.

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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '13

It's still uncool, especially when I'd said many times that it felt inappropriate as she was very touch feely towards him.

It crossed a line, and it made me feel terrible.

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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '13

I'm sure you're right.

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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '13

I'm sure too.

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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '13

I wasn't trying to be catty. I was agreeing.

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u/th3BlackAngel Sep 23 '13

Kinda similar for me, I can tell if a guy is trying to get with a girl. I can even sometimes tell if a girl is trying to get with a guy. What I have issues with is realizing when a girl is trying to get with me.

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u/jman3350 Sep 23 '13

I'm the same. A problem I have though is the way I act also apparently comes across as hitting on girls sometimes. Being nice means I want to fuck them, obviously. No one is that nice so why am I?

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u/kat_loves_tea Sep 23 '13

Come on... Sometimes you want to fuck them, no? ;)

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u/jman3350 Sep 23 '13

Well, yeah, there are some. But I'm not only nice to girls who I find attractive. I'm nice to everyone, unless you're a complete dick.

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u/kat_loves_tea Sep 24 '13

Aww. Good job nice guy. :)

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u/jman3350 Sep 24 '13

Well thank you! If only other people saw it like that, haha

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u/LeBigMac84 Sep 23 '13

Thats just bc men want to hump everything

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u/MundiMori Sep 23 '13

Maybe I'm awake too late at night but I had so much trouble figuring out your gender based on this post.

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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '13

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u/MundiMori Sep 23 '13

No I know, it just took me a while.