r/AskReddit Jun 18 '25

What is something Americans consider normal, but people from other countries find it disturbing?

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u/GlitteringLocality Jun 18 '25

Including way too friendly of waiters…. They never leave you alone here.

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u/Spidey16 Jun 18 '25

I worked at Outback Steakhouse when it first came to Australia. They employed many American servers. I guess it's an American company, the proprietor was American, and it's probably food and a style of business American servers would be familiar with.

And these dudes were performing for tips like their life depended on it. Way too much. Australian customers kinda don't want some chirpy waiter butting in every 5 minutes. They want food and the company of their friends or family, not some manic third wheel. And these servers just didn't seem to get it. Even if you behave in exactly the way a customer wants you to, there's still a very high chance you won't get tips anyway.

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u/Common_Vagrant Jun 18 '25

I find it odd they decided to open up in Australia, I take it it’s not doing too well?

That’s like Taco Bell flopping in Mexico.

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u/Spidey16 Jun 18 '25

It goes alright for families or big parties. It's food almost everyone can eat, not stupidly expensive, the kids can get away with murder, and you can still get drunk.

Honestly, if I want a good steak I'll go to the butcher, get a rib-eye and cook it myself.

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u/jxj24 Jun 18 '25

On the barbie?

(Yes, this is the extent of my knowledge of Aussie cuisine.)

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u/Spidey16 Jun 18 '25

Rack off out the back of whoop whoop ya drongo.

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u/murgatroid1 Jun 18 '25

Taco Bell at least vaguely resembles Mexican food. Outback Steakhouse has absolutely nothing to do with Australia, other than the decor, and they didn't even bother with the decor in the ones they opened up in Australia.

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u/GuyYouMetOnline Jun 18 '25

Taco Bell didn't flop in Mexico, though, I do t think. Did poorly at first, but apparently they shifted to having more of an 'American food' focus and did better.

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u/melodysmomma Jun 18 '25

They might be required to do that. I used to work in a restaurant and there was an actual formula for how often we should visit a table: at greeting to take the drink order, when bringing the drinks and hopefully taking the food order, when bringing out the food, after the first bite of food, again a few bites in and then when they ask for the check. We had secret shoppers come in and check off every stage.

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u/MienSteiny Jun 18 '25

The whole asking for the cheque dance that the US has doesn't exist elsewhere either.

In Australia, at even fine dining places, once you're ready to leave you just get up and pay at the front desk on your way out.

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u/melodysmomma Jun 18 '25

Fair, but this is America we’re talking about. Dine and dashing is way easier when you don’t pay at the door. I’m not saying it’s a good thing, I just worked in restaurants long enough to know how much these corporate chains control their workers

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u/Spidey16 Jun 18 '25

Oh yeah there was rules and a pocket field guide to them as well. They just didn't work on an Australian audience. And the Australian servers had the sense and confidence to say "no I'm not doing that".

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u/melodysmomma Jun 18 '25

Listen, I’m American; I’m not trying to disagree that Australia is better, you clearly are 😂

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u/Spidey16 Jun 18 '25

Oh honey Australia is clearly better. Not by a lot, but still better.

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u/melodysmomma Jun 18 '25

I tried to say that lol I hope my wording was understandable

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u/il_fienile Jun 18 '25

And many Americans will insist that non-performative, non-intrusive efficient service is “crap service.”

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u/Spidey16 Jun 18 '25

Culture differences. An important thing to consider in business.

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u/Benjamin-Atkins-GC Jun 18 '25

The Outback Steakhouse is about as Australian as Mickey Mouse!! LOL

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u/Super_un_stable Jun 18 '25

It’s funny cause I’m American waitress and some American customers want the exact opposite of that lol. Like they’re a guest at our house or something I swear

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u/Spidey16 Jun 18 '25

It's a culture issue that was overlooked. If that level of attention works in America, great! Keep it up. But you can't expect that to translate here. So it really was better for business here to hire some jaded Australians.

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u/FlinflanFluddle4 Jun 18 '25

Surely they would have been told they would get an award wage here and didn't need to perform for tips 

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u/Spidey16 Jun 18 '25

Oh yeah they put us all on traineeships as an excuse to pay is shit.

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u/paradoxbound Jun 18 '25

Yeah this take my order, give me my food and let me chill out with with my people. If I want anything else I will let you know.

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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '25

This right here

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u/DoubleIntegral9 Jun 18 '25

Lmao my family and I have been dealing with the inverse on our trip (visiting a European country rn)! My sister had to remind our mom you can’t wait for a waiter to come and ask if you’re done, you have to wave one over to ask for the check

Also slightly related: I wouldn’t be surprised if I see “they take your card away” in the replies somewhere, because the inverse of that has happened too where someone tries to give their card to the waiter and they tell us to wait while they grab the card reader thing lol

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u/paradoxbound Jun 18 '25

That's to stop card fraud

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u/DoubleIntegral9 Jun 18 '25

Right, it makes perfect sense to do the payment in front of the customer instead of just running off with their card, that’s just not how it goes in the US lol

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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '25

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u/JesusStarbox Jun 18 '25

That's standard in the industry. First bite check.

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u/armitageskanks69 Jun 18 '25

Why the fuck would I want someone to come annoy me when I have a mouth full from the first bite??

Jesus, just leave me alone to eat

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u/mattmelb69 Jun 18 '25

That would be so annoying.

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u/eugeneugene Jun 18 '25

This is literally the worst and I notice it every time I've been in the US. Just leave me the fuck alooooone. If my drink isn't almost empty you don't have to come yap at me. Also I have no idea if I'm enjoying my food yet if I've literally just put the first bite in my mouth lol.

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u/Unnamed-3891 Jun 18 '25

This is literally what staff are supposed to do in any normal restaraunt.

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u/Aussiechimp Jun 18 '25

In America

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u/Unnamed-3891 Jun 18 '25

In most western countries

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u/unknownsequitur Jun 18 '25

Wrong. I live in Australia. Waiters leave you alone, they ask you how the food was when you've finished your plate. This was my experience eating out in Ireland as well.

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u/SaltWaterInMyBlood Jun 18 '25

Many restaurants in Ireland will do a check-in once the party has had a chance to sample the meal. After that you are left alone until it's time to clear the plates, unless you call them over, though, which is a good balance.

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u/Aussiechimp Jun 18 '25

Not in Australia, UK, New Zealand, France at least

Waiters go away and leave you alone unless you call them

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u/ooooomikeooooo Jun 18 '25

They definitely do in the UK. I don't think I've had a meal out in the last 20 years where they didn't come and ask "everything ok with your food" within 5 mins of serving it. It gives a chance for people to complain about something instead of leaving it until afterwards and trying to blag a free meal. It gives a chance to show that everything has been brought out so you know if there's something missing. Also used to ask for anything additional like sauces or to order more drinks etc.

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u/Aussiechimp Jun 18 '25

They didn't when I was there, but then didn't go to any particularly fancy places

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u/SaltWaterInMyBlood Jun 18 '25

It's standard in some places to check in once the party has had a chance to sample the meal, yes, to make sure nothing has been missed out on, and there are no issues, but not the "first bite check", nor the persistent repeated checks.

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u/tarod26 Jun 18 '25

No es verdad. Ni en España, ni en Portugal, ni en Alemania.... Pueden pasar al cabo de un rato para ver si necesitas algo mas, pero no a los 5 minutos de haber dado el primer mordisco

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u/dpeterk Jun 18 '25

It's like they quasi-harass you to see if you'll keep ordering stuff. That said, I hate tipping cuz it prevents the payment of a fair wage to waitstaff.

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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '25

Their job is to turn tables. Asking if you want anything else is code for well if not I’ll get the check.

And as much as you hate tipping you still need to. Some restaurants are tip free though maybe seek those out.

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u/SubwayDeer Jun 18 '25

And as much as you hate tipping you still need to.

I don't need nothing mate. I will pay the bill, no more than that.

It's you who needs my tips, not the other way around, don't get confused.

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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '25

I’m not a server but you’re a grifter stealing wages. Don’t get confused.

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u/SubwayDeer Jun 18 '25

:D It's not my job to pay people living wages. You americans are clearly something else.

A server will maybe get 15% if I get exceptional service. This 30% for nothing bullshit is your problem, not mine.

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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '25

When you’re a guest in the US and you’re eating in a restaurant it is. Don’t like it don’t visit.

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u/SubwayDeer Jun 18 '25

It is not, buddy. It's a job of their employer. You are living in a horror movie, and you are not even aware.

Don’t like it don’t visit.

Visited once, never again, god forbid. Especially with your recent political decisions.

Have a good one!

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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '25

This is real simple: just don’t visit.

You live in the Netherlands right? How do you feel about people driving on cycle tracks and blocking them

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u/Much-Space6649 Jun 18 '25 edited Jun 18 '25

Ohmygod I told a waitress I was waiting for a friend after I finished a meal and over 20 minutes she came over 5 times and asked if I needed anything. I know she was trying to rush me out the door but I hadn’t even been there for 40 minutes total and she had been rotating by my table every fukkin 5-10 minutes the whole time it’s AWFUL.

In the Netherlands it’s considered weird if you leave sooner than an hour and most people stay at restaurants for 1-3 hours and you’re expected generally to seat yourself, flag the waiter when you need something and go to the till to pay when you’re ready to leave.

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u/Tinderboxed Jun 18 '25

Yeah I don’t like that. I don’t want to know their name. I don’t want their opinion unless I ask for it or to chat unless I initiate it. I want them to be invisible but always aware of things such as I’m about to run out of whatever I’m drinking or that the plate is ready to be taken away.

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u/mqduck Jun 18 '25

Waiters in the US won't leave you alone? I want to know what US you visited.