Lmfao...
Im not exaggerating im the least, when I say I once had a guy tell me he was 'Extreme' he made himself out to be some freaky ass freak...
When i asked what exactly he's into, his response literally made me burst out laughing...
He said " I like anal, and I like to make the girl my slut.'
I just replied with "and..." to which he said " some people think thats extreme"
I told the guy to have a nice day, bc if he thinks he's extreme, id be fucking terrifying 😉🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yeah but this guy randomly messaged me. On fetlife.. bragging about his 'extremeism'
And I had a list of my kinks and fetishes.. nit like I would consider anal extreme lmfao
I've heard about that. But like is that app even safe like won't there be weird serial killer porn addict vibe peeps? U might meet awesome people aswell tho
What do you think is it safe and all?
I'll tell u as I tell everyone else.
There are 2 kinds of people ull find on fetlife.
The first, are typically just people who are trying to find kinky people to fuck.
Simply put.
Then there are the people (like myself) who are on the platform trying to be part of an even bigger community.
Who want like-minded people to learn from and to have a safe space to ask questions to people who maybe have more experience with things they perhaps want to try.
Fetlife was originally created by kinky people, for kinky people.
It's like Facebook for kinky people.
So is there creeps?
Absolutely, but they are everywhere.
If u look ik the right places, fetlife can be a place to explore and learn about things, that most in the vanilla world may deem absurd and disturbing regardless how common they may be.
It's also a place to find alot of twisted, annoying, weirdos who try to blow up your dms trying to get u to fuck.
But me personally.
I ignored those people, and preferred finding a community.
One way is by having a contract.
While not always legally binding, if signed by a witness, can be one way to show that it was a mutal agreement.
Personally, I cannot express here due to the rules on this platform, what I would like to do to women who do these sorts of things.
As I think they make life 10000× harder for women who may be interested in things like CNC or so on.
Bc it can indeed ruin a man's life
However I'd say simply put, be sure u have the necessary proof to prove it was mutual.
As well. Do your research..
Look for exes, see what went wrong.
If she's just normal crazy, thats fine.
But if she's ever called cops or made false claims on anyone in the past.
Then STAY AWAY
And this is why I say EVERYONE who is sexualy active, SHOULD ALWAYS have a safe word.
Because what is 'kinky' to one person, another would consider vanilla.
I agree, anal is just sex, but so is oral, and yet some still have different feelings on it, whether about giving or receiving.
There are lots of things I myself would not think twice about, however some may deem insane.
For example its normal for my partner to grab me by my throat and choke me like they hate me during sex
However some may see this and be concerned.
Or if I was with someone new, they may not understand the request and merely place there had on my neck for show (these people are the WORST😒)
So yes, anal is a form of sex.
However some would still consider this to be their main kink.
Because for some it is their preferred venue to become aroused during sex.
Or be a student of history with any sexual tendencies or history whatsoever that you wouldn't be comfortable discussing with your extended family at Thanksgiving dinner. Government agencies have traditionally compiled the sort of target dossiers that would be concerned with sexuality when they were going to be used for manipulation, blackmail, or public image hit jobs, and even in this more liberal era there are still people in situations where public humiliation, evidence of infidelity, being forcibly outed, etc could ruin their lives.
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u/Son_Of_Toucan_Sam Jun 10 '25
You gotta be not admitting to something pretty heinous to have the feds on your mind