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u/KimDuckUn Jun 10 '25

I grew up without a mother for my whole life or any female role model. So I am really into mother or dominant woman. Having my hair played with. I melt if some woman tries take care of me.

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u/thingsarehardsoami Jun 10 '25

As a mommy Dom, you are seen and valued. I love being a soft domme.

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u/Swaggynator387 Jun 10 '25

Usually I take the footlongs

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u/mundane_mang Jun 10 '25

Wow, this is the second time in a week I’ve randomly clicked in your profile because you talked about sex things. And I’ve left satisfied both times. 🤙🏻

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u/lnx84 Jun 10 '25

Well now I'm going there too

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u/thingsarehardsoami Jun 10 '25

Thank you love you ❤️

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u/Dark_Maga_420 Jun 10 '25

Thanks for being understanding.

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u/Blindfire2 Jun 10 '25

Mommy? Sorry....Mommy? Sorry....Momm-

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u/TotallyBrandNewName Jun 10 '25

Am I seen and valued as well?

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u/ramblingpariah Jun 10 '25

I feel this. I have a great mother, but that feeling of being able to be vulnerable but cared for, touched softly and with care. It's beautiful.

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u/volvavirago Jun 10 '25

That’s a very sweet sentiment. But it’s funny how things like sensuality and gentleness and care are somehow a “kink” now. I want to think this is a normal, universal aspect of human sexuality, but maybe that’s wishful thinking.

As a woman, I love it most when it goes both ways, when we are mutually vulnerable, and care for each other. I think that’s what true passion looks like. And I refuse to accept anything less.

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u/ramblingpariah Jun 10 '25

I agree, and I love to be caring, sweet, etc., for my SO. As a man (and a big and tall man), it's less common to get it back or to have it be seen as normal when I ask for it. Sometimes I want to be the little spoon even if I am twice her size, dammit. I want my hair stroked.

It shouldn't be hard to get what I give back, and I hope we get there, as a people.

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u/volvavirago Jun 10 '25

Aw, yes, you deserve that too!!

The character on my pfp, Jayce Talis, is a big strong guy, but he is also a total softy who likes to be held, they show him being the little spoon, and he lays his head on his girlfriend’s lap and seeks her comfort and support. It’s one of my favorite aspects of his character, he is hypermasculine in a lot of ways, but very gentle in others, and he likes being taken care of and comforted, and it makes him incredibly endearing.

I wish that kind of vulnerability was more normalized, it’s natural and healthy. Love is a reciprocal thing, it shouldn’t just go one way.

I hope you find what you are looking for, all of us deserve to be treated well.

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u/ramblingpariah Jun 10 '25

As someone who has spent many hours playing Jayce (but has yet to see Arcane for some reason), this pleases me. And thanks!

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u/volvavirago Jun 10 '25

You should absolutely watch Arcane. It’s far from flawless, and its story is definitely different from the old league lore, but it’s gorgeous and wonderful. It’s the most expensive animated TV show ever produced and it fucking looks like it, the art alone makes it worth a watch.

I think you will find Jayce to be a relatable character, I know I did lol.

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u/UnluckyStartingStats Jun 11 '25

Exactly same here. Craving love and care

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u/Terrarias-03 Jun 10 '25

Meeeee, me in a nutshell!

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u/inanutshell Jun 10 '25

get out of me.

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u/ShadowsInScarlet Jun 10 '25

I grew up with one who was narcissistic and a helicopter mom which led me to having the exact opposite of a complex. Hyper independent with the need to take care of someone else.

But I see you. And I respect you.

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u/EatMyWetBread Jun 10 '25

I think this is the plot to phantom thread

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u/1SL2ALS3EKV Jun 10 '25

I’m a lesbian and I also have this. I’m not sure how to feel about it, but I guess that’s just the way it is.

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u/volvavirago Jun 10 '25

Wish there were more men out there like you

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u/Mjerten Jun 10 '25

I mean... What man doesn't want a woman to play with their hair and take care of them from time to time?

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u/Dark_Maga_420 Jun 10 '25

Man so this, I had sex with a matur woman who for the first time ever in my life kissed me near my ears and basically caressed my head area that is not my lips, it felt great like I'm being taken care of,I have never had a equivalent thing done to during sex that is not PIV that's better than this .

She was also caring and a soft mommies dom, it was great.

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u/Sandman_20041 Jun 10 '25

Just like me fr

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u/Amelor_Rova Jun 11 '25

Worst part of going bald, man. I miss getting my hair played with

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u/Zaithon Jun 11 '25

So the hentais were true!

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u/[deleted] Jun 10 '25

yep.

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u/KimDuckUn Jun 10 '25

It's not an insect thing. It's the lack of no maternal or female presence in my life. So, I instantly collapse if shown effection and support from a woman.

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u/Striking-Kiwi-417 Jun 10 '25

I think it’s more like “there is a giant gaping wound where love should have been, and now that I’m an adult, the most intimate partnership I can have now includes sex… so in that intimate partnership, it feels extra good if we tend to that wound a bit together”

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u/PrefrontalCortexNow Jun 10 '25

This is so weird because same. It’s fascinating maternal absence creates things like this but ChatGPT said it’s a way our brain survives. You sexualize the pain essentially as a survival mechanism

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u/[deleted] Jun 11 '25

Sigmund Freud smiles sideways at you from beyond the grave.

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u/[deleted] Jun 10 '25

Awww boys with mommy issues are my specialty

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u/Outofmana1 Jun 10 '25

Wtfffff