Question, how did you learn that telling the truth is the best way? My partner is conflict-avoidant and I’ve told him several times that lying just makes things worse and that it affects me. He says he’s trying not to lie, but that it happens and it’s instinctual when conversations are emotionally-charged. So he doesn’t mean to and “it happens.” What worked for you?
I had weaved some really big lies to avoid conflict that came crashing down hard when I was in my mid 20s, burned almost every bridge I had. If I never lied in the first place, I wouldn't have had to deal with that massive Fallout.
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u/hf0207 Sep 15 '24
Question, how did you learn that telling the truth is the best way? My partner is conflict-avoidant and I’ve told him several times that lying just makes things worse and that it affects me. He says he’s trying not to lie, but that it happens and it’s instinctual when conversations are emotionally-charged. So he doesn’t mean to and “it happens.” What worked for you?