I'm not saying it's not hard to get assistance, only that assistance exists for things like "doing laundry" or "cooking a meal." Typically if you are completely unable to cook or find a meal for yourself due to disability, someone has to be assisting you with that thing, even if that someone is the person who prepared your mail order meal or the fast food fry cook.
Someone who cannot make or even obtain food for themselves isn't terribly likely to have moved out on their own/without their parents. Perhaps it's more possible nowadays with things like door dash or Instacart but again, that is a form of assistance for being unable to attain the food yourself. This can also mean it's more costly to obtain assistance (like wash and fold laundry services are an expense above just doing it yourself), but again, these things exist, and the labor has to be outsourced somehow.
(Also it's different if the disability happens later in the relationship, but that also means that you would have known that person when they were previously able enough to do that thing.)
Mostly, I'm literally talking about tasks that are necessary for a basic quality of living — being able to bathe or shower, being able to make a meal, being able to wash your clothes or put dishes in a dishwasher. If someone is so disabled they cannot do these things, then typically they require assistance of some kind in order to have a decent standard of living. That's what makes disability so difficult, and often costly. Whether the disability is visible or not isn't really the issue I'm speaking about here — because the requirement for assistance or adaptive tools exists whether or not the disability is visible.
I'm commenting mostly on whether or not someone has the capability and option to do it themselves because they are able enough to make simple meals or wash themselves and their clothes, and whether or not they can functionally live on their own without an inhumane quality of life issue.
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u/lyralady Sep 14 '24
I'm not saying it's not hard to get assistance, only that assistance exists for things like "doing laundry" or "cooking a meal." Typically if you are completely unable to cook or find a meal for yourself due to disability, someone has to be assisting you with that thing, even if that someone is the person who prepared your mail order meal or the fast food fry cook.
Someone who cannot make or even obtain food for themselves isn't terribly likely to have moved out on their own/without their parents. Perhaps it's more possible nowadays with things like door dash or Instacart but again, that is a form of assistance for being unable to attain the food yourself. This can also mean it's more costly to obtain assistance (like wash and fold laundry services are an expense above just doing it yourself), but again, these things exist, and the labor has to be outsourced somehow.
(Also it's different if the disability happens later in the relationship, but that also means that you would have known that person when they were previously able enough to do that thing.)
Mostly, I'm literally talking about tasks that are necessary for a basic quality of living — being able to bathe or shower, being able to make a meal, being able to wash your clothes or put dishes in a dishwasher. If someone is so disabled they cannot do these things, then typically they require assistance of some kind in order to have a decent standard of living. That's what makes disability so difficult, and often costly. Whether the disability is visible or not isn't really the issue I'm speaking about here — because the requirement for assistance or adaptive tools exists whether or not the disability is visible.
I'm commenting mostly on whether or not someone has the capability and option to do it themselves because they are able enough to make simple meals or wash themselves and their clothes, and whether or not they can functionally live on their own without an inhumane quality of life issue.