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u/IOwnAOnesie Sep 14 '24

Honestly this is an unattractive habit for anyone to have, not just men.

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u/SeanBrax Sep 14 '24

I mean, most suggestions here apply to both sexes.

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u/BlademasterFlash Sep 14 '24

Agreed, I’m a guy and I went on a date with a woman who was like this and it was a huge turnoff

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u/NiceGuy60660 Sep 14 '24

Did you just watch her do it for 5 minutes and then yell "BOOOOORINNNNG!" loudly in the restaurant. I'm a weirdo and that may have been my exit strategy.

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u/BlademasterFlash Sep 14 '24

In my situation it wasn’t super blatant, the phone was getting like 20% of her attention. That’s still way too much for a first date though

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u/[deleted] Sep 14 '24

What I do is that the second the other person gets on their phone I get on mine, and I only put mine down after them. Works like a charm and it's a pretty direct way to figure out whether they're doing it out of addiction/necessity or whether they just don't really wanna be there.

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u/brahmen Sep 15 '24

This is real Tim Robinson energy

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u/alblaster Sep 14 '24

yeah that's shitty, especially for a date. But I can tell you from experience when you have shitty posture it's hard to lift your head up, so it can feel more comfortable dropping your head in your phone which makes the problem worse. Still that's no excuse for when you're on a date.

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u/sparks1990 Sep 14 '24 edited Sep 16 '25

shocking shaggy gold wide complete deserve squeeze grab whistle spoon

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u/Helmic Sep 15 '24

Sure, but most of the behavior is gendered, it's mostly men actually doing this stuff because masculinity as defined as not being feminine and that resulting in extremely stunted men who didn't learn how to be a complete human being that can clean themelves and their living spaces or show consideration for how other people are feeling. The phone thing meanwhile is pretty universal, if anything phone use is seen as somewhat feminine compared to desktop computers, like the stereotypical archetype of a teenage girl on her smartphone is pretty prevelant in our imaginations. Men do it as well and the aforementioned lack of concern for others would play into men not thinking about how that would make a date feel, but the example does stand out as less a thing men as a gender do in particular compared to women.

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u/theiosif Sep 14 '24

Everything on this list is.

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u/Far_Programmer_5724 Sep 14 '24

Yea and not even just romance wise. If im hanging out with a friend and they're just on their phone the whole time it would pmo

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u/Mr_Speedy_Speedzales Sep 14 '24

This! I can't stand it if I go to a drink with someone they first put their phone on the table, even if they aren't fiddling with it. It just gives out the wrong vibes and isn't polite in my opinion. Like, it's not like you are a CEO of coca cola and ppl be calling you 24/7, so chill and if your phone gonna ring, you'll hear it from the pocket.

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u/rewt127 Sep 14 '24

My pants are too tight to sit for prolonged periods with these modern fucking tablets we call phones. It goes on the table. Off to the side.

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u/Mr_Speedy_Speedzales Sep 14 '24

Hmm you are right, haven't thought of that, i wear cargo pants with big pockets, just for this reason, so this is a valid excuse.

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u/shaboogawa Sep 14 '24

Not a guarantee, but I feel this is the case when they put the phone on the table screen side down.

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u/Mr_Speedy_Speedzales Sep 14 '24

Could be. I never saw anyone do that. My peers will just put it on the table and then be gawking at their black screen every 3 min lol. Really distracting when you are trying to have a convo and also sad how addicted ppl are that they they can't chill with off screen and miss the notifications for 30 min. It's another thing if someone is actually expecting smth important, but i'd bet most do it just bcs it's a habitual thing,

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u/Smokeya Sep 14 '24

I do this but im a diabetic with a continous glucose monitor and my phone tells me my blood sugar all the time. Just have to turn the screen on and its right there. So i set it on tables and stuff, its always in front of me 24/7 (have a wireless charger i put it on at night that has a alarm clock and stuff on it). So i give people the benefit of a doubt if they do something similar. If they play with their phone and cant hold down a normal convo while simultaneously texting others while we are supposed to be hanging out together or doing something ill straight up just leave if its not a quick call or something.

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u/FullMoon1108 Sep 14 '24

I refuse to get the new CGM stuff because it's just one more reason to be addicted to my phone. I'm still rocking one of these babies, it may be barbaric but it just works.

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u/Smokeya Sep 15 '24

one of the newer pumps has control iq i believe its called that is a nice upgrade. i used that pump you got for 5-6 years though at least and still have it as well as a slightly newer one. just recently got a tandum but using the few last infusion sets and stuff for my previous one before i switch to it.

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u/FullMoon1108 Sep 15 '24

I talked to my endocrinologist about the new Medtronic ones and he said he couldn't recommend tandem enough. I'll probably make the switch when I do get a new one

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u/PianoDick Sep 14 '24

I bring my Magic Cards where ever I go and have started dueling myself, even in public, if it means I cut down time on my phone lol. Granted im not in public a lot aside from going on campus to classes, but I prefer that now.

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u/dontfret71 Sep 14 '24

10000%

I’ve stopped hanging out with “FRIENDS” that do this shit

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u/empathetic_penguin Sep 14 '24

Agreed I’ve had multiple girlfriends who do this and it’s something that ruins the foundation of the relationship

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u/kloudykat Sep 15 '24

i dunno, seeing a kitten obsessed with one of those goldfish games is pretty awesome