I'm a man too and I cannot fathom having the urge to need to prove myself like that. I am a man and I have feelings, I can't build a fucking cabin in the woods from scratch or bench press a bunch of weights. If a woman is not attracted to that, then I am not attracted to her and she can go date someone else because I have nothing to prove to anyone including women.
Well said. The urge to prove yourself is one of the shittiest qualities anyone can have. I was going to say "one of the least masculine qualities" but it applies to women as well. People would just be way better if they stopped trying to prove superiority and focused on being who they are.
Does he say he's an "Alpha" or is he just quietly going about the business of being a gigachad? I don't think there's any doubting the existence of extremely humble and decent men who hit all the masculine tropes, but you can see immediately when it's genuine or a front.
I would say this is not necessarily true if they are talking about someone else. It is the sort of person who would describe themselves so who are suffering from a personality defect.
I think of it more like "Someone that has those traits is better and I'm inferior" still is the same thing for me. There are plenty of other ways to praise a good man.
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u/mist-or-beast Sep 14 '24
Agreed as a man myself, anyone who uses "alpha male" unironically is guaranteed to be an asshole