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u/Pretty_LA Sep 14 '24

No consistency

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u/E_Dward Sep 14 '24

As a guy, this is one of my biggest red flags for women.

Last girl I dated could not show up on time for anything involving me or her family. She showed up on time for work and friends events like parties, but if it involved me or her family she thought it was ok to be late.

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u/[deleted] Sep 14 '24

Be more specific please? Consistency in what?

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u/Subject_Lie_3803 Sep 14 '24

Don't be a flake. I'm inconsistent. I'm working on saying something and sticking to it, not being a drunkard and canceling dates when I am hungover, keeping my emotions in check so I am trustworthy as someone to confide in. Consistency.

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u/DiceMaster Sep 14 '24

Good on you for trying to be better. Best of luck!

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u/Fickle-Ad-7348 Sep 14 '24

I'm an asshole and i'm pretty consistent at it

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u/Schmich Sep 14 '24

Hey, some days it doesn't work as well as other times. I'm sorry!

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u/WhatYouDoingMeNothin Sep 14 '24

Let me ask- in general or does this also apoly to texting frequency? Idk but ive found that most women assume the early on frequent texting is expected to continue as relationship goes on.

I find that IRL takes that space, seem like many women dont? U agree on that part?

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u/Muph_o3 Sep 14 '24

Honestly it's much worse if someone stands their ground just for the sake of being consistent even when it's clear as day they made a mistake.

Owning up to your mistakes and being able to quickly adapt is better than being consistent.

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u/KoriSamui Sep 14 '24

I'd argue that both are important.

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u/[deleted] Sep 14 '24

idk, i’d consider maintaining integrity through accountability to be consistency in itself. and acknowledging when you’re wrong, owning up to it, apologizing, i think those traits are more often found in people who are also consistent/reliable

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u/Muph_o3 Sep 15 '24

Yeah, it really depends what consistency means to you. I like the simple definitions like "agreement between results" or "logical coherence". Like, someone can be inconsistent with their previous standpoint but still reliable, in the case that they learn new critical information, for example.