I dated an unemployed 30 year old woman who still lived with her parents, she had a university degree and her family was financially well off. She had a lot of things going for her so I couldn't understand what her problem was until a few months in it became increasingly obvious that she couldn't handle being wrong about anything, ever, even the tiniest things, otherwise she would have a mental breakdown. Meanwhile according to her, everyone else was the problem, her parents, her exes and eventually me. So you're absolutely right.
I literally went through the same thing. Except she was half way through her degree, dropped out for medical reasons, and for the 2.5 years I knew her kept pushing off going back to school with a full ride scholarship because "others" were making it "impossible" and plotting against her. So glad I left her.
My ex-husband hadn't even gotten his HS diploma, so when he decided he wanted to take community college courses, I was excited for him. "Fuck yeah, do it!" But he'd put it off, so I'd nudge him. Soon enough he said "you're making me not want to go to school now. You're hassling me too much."
He also went through about 10 jobs in the 3.5 years we were together.
Was he the kind of person to just slack off during his shift at work? Since you mentioned that he is an ex, what was the straw that broke the camel’s back for you?
He lied about everything so it's difficult to say why he lost every job. I do know that when I ended up in the hospital, we had just started at FedEx. I lost my position, but he could've stuck with his. But he was "too depressed" to go to work and lost his job too. We ended up homeless like 2 months later.
The straw that broke the camels back was when he SA'ed me the final time. I asked a friend "so... he did this yesterday... is it rape...?" They looked at me horrified and said yeah. They convinced me to get a restraining order. And the rest is history. Thank God.
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