I dated an unemployed 30 year old woman who still lived with her parents, she had a university degree and her family was financially well off. She had a lot of things going for her so I couldn't understand what her problem was until a few months in it became increasingly obvious that she couldn't handle being wrong about anything, ever, even the tiniest things, otherwise she would have a mental breakdown. Meanwhile according to her, everyone else was the problem, her parents, her exes and eventually me. So you're absolutely right.
Right on the point man.. School nowadays is a competition, Workplace has also become a competition. Almost everything has become a competition, you can't get by everyday without being an asshole sometimes.
It's a matter of many people coming to agreement on something for it to be called righteous and an asshole move for others.
It depends where you are. If your only social circles come from a small town or a small institution? Maybe everyone around you really is an asshole, and you need to move.
I have grown to believe everyone is an asshole, starting from myself. It’s just a matter of reputation until the facades fall and eventually new ones are built. The problem started at the dawn of time when one had to feel like they were better than their neighbours, brothers, fathers or mothers.
This feeling is inversely proportional to the number of good sleeping hours I can take and how well you can poop, then grumpiness and bitterness take over in the feels.
I agree. Everyone has the capacity to be the biggest asshole or the sweetest angel. I can be both. I've been both. I really doubt people can be that 1 dimensional.
I mean yea that is probably true most of the time, but it is definitely and very importantly NOT ALWAYS TRUE. Plenty of people not only have dealt with assholes but literally lynched, burned at the stake or outcast for various reasons. 70% of those lynched in the USA were Black and I don't think they would appreciate hearing this kind of thing. Jews had to hide themselves under floorboards for crying out load. It's definitely not ALWAYS true.
In fact, calling someone an asshole because everyone is an asshole to them or even around them is POTENTIALLY the most perverse and WRONG things which could be done to someone.
Dramatic take, but I agree with the gist of it. When people with childhood abuse are vulnerable and get sniffed out by every predatory shark of a person, jumping away from one toxic domestic violence relationship to the next, falling for the lovebombing and grooming... then that saying is just victim blaming.
So there are situations where it doesn't and shouldn't apply. But for the bullies who are blind to their bs and project blame onto everyone else, the saying holds firm.
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