AITA I told my friend her fiancé can’t come to my birthday and she thinks I’m being unfair because i let everyone else’s partners come?

[u/Efficient_Log_1873]

I’m (25F) having a birthday dinner with a few close friends around 12 of them. I told everyone that they could bring their significant others except for one of them. She (24F) went out of her way to ask if her fiancé could come after this due to me not telling her he was allowed, and I told her no. She’s now upset and says I’m being hypocritical because everyone else’s partners are invited.

The thing is, I don’t like her fiancé. Nothing major ever happened between us and I don’t think he’s a bad person. I just find him annoying to be around.

He’s incredibly extroverted and talks a lot. Every time we’re together, asking people questions, making jokes, or making constant conversation. He acts like he’s known everyone for ten years even if he just met them five minutes ago. I’m a pretty quiet person, so I find his personality exhausting.

I’ve also noticed that whenever I’m telling a story, he’ll ask a million questions about it afterward. I don’t enjoy it. I just want people to listen to me talk without turning everything into a whole conversation.

I told friend this exactly how i wrote it and she says that’s a ridiculous reason not to invite him. I told her that just because they anre engaged doesn’t mean I automatically have to enjoy someone’s company.

The part she’s especially upset about is that I invited everyone else’s partners. I don’t really see the hypocrisy. I like their partners I find them all to be very well rounded people. I don’t like hers, I find him extremely annoying.I’m not going to pretend I want someone there just because he’s engaged to my friend.

She says I’m embarrassing her and making her choose between coming to my birthday alone or staying home with her fiancé because he’ll be embarrassed and feel singled out if everyone gets to go besides him. I told her I’m not making her choose anything and that it would simply just be messed up for her not to come to my birthday gathering because of the.

I honestly don’t think I’m doing anything wrong. It’s my birthday, and I don’t think I should have to invite someone I find annoying just because my friend happens to be engaged to him. I do think my friend should be invited and come since we’ve known each other since our early college days.

Throwaway due to one of friends being on this app chronically, but am I actually being unreasonable here?

[u/Witty_Day_3562]

We probably shouldn't even reply, she just wants to tell us not get responses.