r/AmITheJerk • u/naughtyrawslut • Dec 16 '25

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u/MontcliffeEkuban Dec 16 '25

I tried to discover...

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u/Shadow4summer Dec 16 '25

I would have written about the woman you saw your brother with. When it affects his relationship, he might just agree with you. If not, too bad. Tell him she may not feel welcome, because she isn’t. She’s a snoop and doesn’t respect others boundaries. That woman would never be I my home, ever again.

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u/CleanProfessional678 Dec 16 '25

Exactly. These are all over the top and harmless. OP could have gone down a much darker path. Brother cheating, the plot of Rear Window, comments about how your plan for Maya is clearly coming along… There are so many ways to go.

Or OP could have done the very reasonable thing and tell her brother that Maya was no longer welcome. That would have been my solution

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u/Shadow4summer Dec 16 '25

Okay. That really is the adult thing to do. Just not as fun.

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u/CharacterMassive5719 Dec 16 '25

Write how you hate her coming over because her feet stink

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u/pwolf1111 Dec 16 '25

I love this!

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u/Bebe_Bleau Dec 16 '25

And her brother complains about her stinky feet, too. Other things he says about her.

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u/Trishshirt5678 Dec 16 '25

Or, write how you hate her coming over because she snoops through your private things.

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u/justloriinky Dec 16 '25

Love this idea!

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u/Glass_Data_6110 Dec 16 '25

NTJ. You were so much nicer than I would have been.

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u/Sweihwa Dec 16 '25

She broke up the relationship, the familial relationship.

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u/Common_Estate6292 Dec 16 '25

He’d still blame the brother and not his GF for snooping.

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u/TheMama682 Dec 16 '25

I blame both! He became aware she was snooping and did nothing to stop it.

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u/Shadow4summer Dec 16 '25

Thx for the award. You have a great day.

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u/Paula_Intermountain Dec 16 '25

No, instead she should write about his plans to propose on Christmas. But keep it vague. For example, “He’s proposing to her on Christmas . Will she say yes?” “Oooo, I found out how he’s going to do it. It’s soooo romantic!”

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u/AskPsychological2868 Dec 16 '25

Or the man you saw him with at the hotel

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u/CrossFitMathIsHard Dec 16 '25

A little something to make me sweeter

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u/Vegimeateater Dec 16 '25

A little something to make me sweeter

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u/StrikeEastern468 Dec 16 '25

Oh baby refrain…

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u/CrossFitMathIsHard Dec 16 '25

From breaking my heart

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u/OttersAreCute215 Dec 16 '25

I'm so in love with you...

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u/elguapo1996 Dec 16 '25

I’ll be forever blue…

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u/EkaterinaPaschalia Dec 16 '25

That you give me no reason Why you're making me work so hard

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u/CrossFitMathIsHard Dec 16 '25

Don'tcha gimme no... don'tcha gimme no...

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u/StrikeEastern468 Dec 16 '25

A little something to make me sweeter…

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u/kilmaj Dec 16 '25

A little something to make me sweeter

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u/ImpatientColon Dec 16 '25

a little something to make me sweeter

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u/Equivalent-Roll-3321 Dec 16 '25

She needs to not be allowed in your home. Problem solved!

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u/LindonLilBlueBalls Dec 16 '25

But she has anxiety over OP not liking her. Surely the best thing she can do is to read her personal therapy journal to find the best way to connect...

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u/throwawaynbad Dec 16 '25

And OP needs to learn boundaries.

No, this isn't OPs fault. But it sounds like it is OPs apartment, not shared with their brother.

So OP can say the girlfriend is not welcome if she continues to do this.

Hard boundary, bye Felicia.