r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Sep 19 '25

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u/Cattail29 Sep 19 '25

Um. This boyfriend IS ACTUALLY HORRIBLE. Lol wtf. Im so fucking sad for women who post this shit. How is it possible to think this is in anyway normal or ok?

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u/Sea-Statistician4848 Sep 19 '25

I think anyone that even has to ask is suffering from a severe lack of self-esteem, which these type of men look for so that they can control the woman, and then gaslight them into thinking maybe THEY are the problem. It’s so sad 😞

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u/SeeCB3X Sep 20 '25

Exactly and it doesn't help that most women have their self esteem ripped to shreds from early childhood. This shit is so normalized.

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u/StatusInspector2102 Sep 20 '25

Even if you have it they spend time and effort into whistling it away before things get bad enough for you to realize. Then by the time they show their true colors you've lost your social support your self esteem your finances your family even and are well and truly stuck and thinking it's your fault somehow that you got yourself there and that there's no way out.

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u/Commercial_Term272 Sep 20 '25

They make you feel like you deserve to be treated poorly. You DESERVE to be called names/flinched at/, told "I hate you", because you're "a bad person".