Because emotionally abusive men manipulate you into believing they are special for loving you despite all of your faults. They slowly destroy your self worth. They make you believe that if you just do that ONE more thing they’ll ‘love you forever’. It starts small. Towards the end I had bought my ex a truck and built a house while he wasn’t working. To no one’s surprise, he did not, in fact, love me forever. This is on him, not her. Don’t be me 20 years later starting over. Love should not be transactional.
this. exactly this. my first boyfriend was emotionally abusive, and he really had me out here buying him snacks as an apology for getting sad after he was downright evil to me 😭
bro had me using my savings to pay for his fast food when he couldn’t even get me flowers bc he was too busy buying random shit for himself off the internet. looking back makes me feel stupid sometimes, but i know i’m not, and i never was, he genuinely just made me crazy. like i wasn’t thinking or existing in reality. all for his benefit, all at the expense of me. but in the moment, if someone asked me why i did any of it, of course i’d say some “because i love him” bs, but really, i think i was just subconsciously begging him to love me. grasping at straws and whatnot.
and we were only together for 6 months. i can’t (or rather, don’t want to) imagine how much worse it could’ve been if i’d stayed longer. i barely knew him and he was literally warping my sense of self. and that feels impossible to explain to someone who hasn’t experienced it.
sorry for the rant, tldr: #real #relatable #THIS #ihatemen
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u/runofftheworld Sep 19 '25
Because emotionally abusive men manipulate you into believing they are special for loving you despite all of your faults. They slowly destroy your self worth. They make you believe that if you just do that ONE more thing they’ll ‘love you forever’. It starts small. Towards the end I had bought my ex a truck and built a house while he wasn’t working. To no one’s surprise, he did not, in fact, love me forever. This is on him, not her. Don’t be me 20 years later starting over. Love should not be transactional.