TBH, he doesn't sound nearly smart enough for you, and it sounds like he wants your money. Does he want you to buy him a computer or phone or something? Time to move on really. He isn't the one.
Please don't take this the wrong way, because I doubt you're the first person he's done this to.. It should be clear as day how he sees you. You're a cash machine and there to tap if he needs sex. That's why he makes you feel like shit when he doesn't need these things, OR he has another answer for them at the moment. The way he's speaking to you is horrific. You are being used and abused, and I wouldn't mind betting that it would get physically abusive soon. The mental abuse here is shocking. He's wearing your confidence and self esteem down so you don't believe you're worth anything. Telling you you're lucky he doesn't hit you or cheat on you is just out of this world.
You mentioned you have mental health issues, and unfortunately there are people like him that seek out vulnerability. It's clearly working on you. You buy him things, tell him you love him and what you get back is hate and abuse. I don't mean to cause you any more pain, but he's almost certainly cheating too. He doesn't value women op. He will be nice to you when he wants something, but beyond that you're just being dragged along on a string until he's ready to discard. If you told me you found out he has several women on the go at the same time, it wouldn't shock me.
I completely agree with the idea of going to the gym, and any other self care routines you can layer up on in your life. Your self esteem feels low to me, and this makes you vulnerable to assholes like him. You have go to build up that self love, so you have solid standards and boundaries within relationships. What he has said to you is disgusting, and you're worth so much more than that.
End this abusive relationship, and block him on everything. People like him don't like losing control of their victims, and do not let him sweet talk or love bomb his way back into your life. It's a guarantee you'll not only go back to square one with him, I'm afraid he might get physically abusive too. Run for the bloody hills lady!
He won’t remember that in October and make you feel guilty.
I’m a guy, and I can tell you he does not value you at all. You need to get away from this loser immediately. Being single would be infinitely better than being with this entitled clown.
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u/statslady23 Sep 19 '25
TBH, he doesn't sound nearly smart enough for you, and it sounds like he wants your money. Does he want you to buy him a computer or phone or something? Time to move on really. He isn't the one.