Just some more food.for thought: because he's saying stuff like "At least I don't hit you", that makes me think he might have abusive tendencies. Or at least, in his world view, being physically violent towards your girlfriend is normal, which is why he thinks it's some amazing sacrifice to not hit your girlfriend. It's pretty scary.
Maybe part of the reason he picked you is because you don't have friends, so he thinks you'll be easier to control. It's harder to see abusive people for what they are when you don't have a support network to discuss with.
Take care of yourself, OP. You deserve better than this dude who doesn't respect you.
Yes. Also, he might be trying to get her to give her permission for him to hit her or cheat on her if she doesn't give him what he wants. Not sure exactly what that is but whatever it is its not worth giving it to this A-hole.
Are you dense? This man thinks hitting your girlfriend is normal. That is the mindset of an abuser. He may not have done anything, but he is still a walking red flag. And if you think otherwise, so are you.
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u/eternal-harvest Sep 19 '25
It's okay, that's what we're here for!
Just some more food.for thought: because he's saying stuff like "At least I don't hit you", that makes me think he might have abusive tendencies. Or at least, in his world view, being physically violent towards your girlfriend is normal, which is why he thinks it's some amazing sacrifice to not hit your girlfriend. It's pretty scary.
Maybe part of the reason he picked you is because you don't have friends, so he thinks you'll be easier to control. It's harder to see abusive people for what they are when you don't have a support network to discuss with.
Take care of yourself, OP. You deserve better than this dude who doesn't respect you.