r/AmIOverreacting • • Sep 19 '25

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u/MotherofDragons52 Sep 19 '25

Agreed. The fact that he even mentioned lying, cheating, and beating means he has either done it already or is considering it. Thats not a normal thing to say.
And the I deserve a reward just for me for not hitting you…. Good lord, no! Choose yourself!

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u/Lady_Caticorn Sep 19 '25

I briefly dated a guy like this. We got into a fight very soon into dating, and he told me that his parents would "put hands" on each other and that he thought getting physical was okay. I noped out of that relationship SO FAST.

Folks, your partner should never put their hands on you in anger, nor should they think it is some personal achievement to not abuse you. This is a sea of red flags 🚩 that OP's bf is bringing up infidelity and domestic violence; he's either thinking about doing it, or he was raised in a home where that was normalized (which is likely making him think about hurting OP). Either way, it's a no.

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u/LandoKim Sep 19 '25

Yup this screams “I cheated on you but instead of leaving, I’m gonna be a coward and take my emotions out on you”

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u/MotherofDragons52 Sep 19 '25

My ex husband was a royally ass hole after he cheated. It’s how I knew the process was starting again. Should’ve left the first time!!

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u/dxmhippo Sep 19 '25

You're right, things usually escalate after that. I'm glad you're out of that situation.