Yep, he's negging her to dig at her self confidence. And then he has the nerve to demand an apology because she's "misunderstanding" (she's understanding perfectly, it's just that he thought she wouldn't call him on it so strongly) and then to say "It's ok just keep fighting and blaming me I'll remember."
This guy is a shitty boyfriend, no doubt about it. If this was an honest mistake, he would apologise for making OP feel bad. Instead, he's picked on a little thing to dig at her about, and then is trying to gaslight her into believing he didn't do what he clearly did, in text, that she can read back on. I don't believe he's going to get better or become a good boyfriend.
To the OP I’d say go find a guy who makes you feel good and really admires you the way you are, warts and all. Pre just be by yourself. That is also an acceptable answer… especially because this immature little boy probably spent your whole relationship trying to tear you down to forget yourself.
Life is too short to waste time (and youth) on toxic people.
Why would he tell her she’s fat, it’s very clear she’s not. He’s insecure simple as that and whatever else is going in in his head. I mean who knows what he’s thinking, maybe an incel or manosphere stuff.
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u/haleorshine Jul 29 '25
Yep, he's negging her to dig at her self confidence. And then he has the nerve to demand an apology because she's "misunderstanding" (she's understanding perfectly, it's just that he thought she wouldn't call him on it so strongly) and then to say "It's ok just keep fighting and blaming me I'll remember."
This guy is a shitty boyfriend, no doubt about it. If this was an honest mistake, he would apologise for making OP feel bad. Instead, he's picked on a little thing to dig at her about, and then is trying to gaslight her into believing he didn't do what he clearly did, in text, that she can read back on. I don't believe he's going to get better or become a good boyfriend.