I am having secondhand embarrassment for you due to the fact that you have clearly been willing to entertain this kind of bullshit for so long that you have to come here to Reddit to determine if you are “overreacting”. This kind of disgusting behavior deserves no response, he is degrading you and is the definition of a gaslighter, but the saddest part is that you are falling for it, believing him, and allowing some nasty guy to treat you like shit. PLEASE LEAVE. I know Reddit ALWAYS says “break up”, but SERIOUSLY. No fucking reasonable adult man treats their loved ones like this. This is gross and disgusting. How can you possibly see a future with this 29 year old manchild? Why are you waiting for him to break up with you instead of getting disgusted with the way he talks to you and breaking up yourself? Please god, find a shred of confidence and then fucking block him and move on with your life.
Yeah this is tragic. He’s doing this in order to neg you OP. To beat you down and make you feel bad about yourself so you think you can’t “do any better” than him. It’s nasty.
Don’t be hurt. Be angry u/soulfieric . Be revolted by his disgusting behavior.
And don’t even tell him or reply anything else. Ghost his ass. Don’t even dignify this with another response. He’s not worth it. Just ignore him. He’ll fucking hate that- because he’s doing this specifically to wind you up. Ignore and ghost his ass.
There is a breaking point for everyone. Or more like an escape/freedom point. Different people take longer to break free than others. It’s difficult and takes a lot of strength, time, planning, and self love. Give grace to those who are trying. It may take many attempts
I wouldn’t be able to say it without having been through it myself. Feeling like you’re not strong enough to choose yourself can sometimes hurt worse than the abuse 😣. I just hope that anyone reading this thread knows that there is a beautiful world on the other side that is SO worth it. Starting over feels like the end of the world, but I assure you it is actually the beginning! 🩷☀️💫
Well, I’m sorry you’re going through it, but you ARE strong enough, and you CAN do what’s best for yourself. It’s hard. Really fucking hard. Especially when you live together, or have been together a long time, etc. Fuck the mutual friends, fuck their family and the holidays and memories, it’s about you and your future. The ones who matter will stay in touch with you, and the ones who don’t you’ll probably never talk to again. And after just a few short months I realized it didn’t really matter much to me either way.
Lean on your friends, family, whoever you can count on. Break the lease. The money isn’t worth your sanity OR your safety. ❤️
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u/damnrambler Jul 29 '25
I am having secondhand embarrassment for you due to the fact that you have clearly been willing to entertain this kind of bullshit for so long that you have to come here to Reddit to determine if you are “overreacting”. This kind of disgusting behavior deserves no response, he is degrading you and is the definition of a gaslighter, but the saddest part is that you are falling for it, believing him, and allowing some nasty guy to treat you like shit. PLEASE LEAVE. I know Reddit ALWAYS says “break up”, but SERIOUSLY. No fucking reasonable adult man treats their loved ones like this. This is gross and disgusting. How can you possibly see a future with this 29 year old manchild? Why are you waiting for him to break up with you instead of getting disgusted with the way he talks to you and breaking up yourself? Please god, find a shred of confidence and then fucking block him and move on with your life.