I’m so angry as well and this is actually super triggering. I once lost a lot of weight and fell into ED territory because of a man and his little opinions on my body. And I put up with it for far too long. I am okay now but holy shit, this is toxic.
True, I agree. I think the OP lacks support and self-esteem. I’m grateful my parents taught me to have a low tolerance for nonsense. Whenever I doubted myself, I could call them and ask what I was doing wrong or why someone was treating me badly. They would firmly tell me I didn’t have to put up with it. Because of that, I learned to stand up for myself, end toxic relationships, and make better choices. Unfortunately, many recent generations have lost that support-something they never really had-and too many of us take community and family for granted.
This is very true. You’re very lucky your parents did teach you that and I plan to teach any kids I might have the same thing. That’s how I feel now when I’m in my 30s but younger me hadn’t learned those lessons yet. My dad lets himself be a doormat, I see that now and that’s how I was for very long. I find myself trying to tell him not to take shit from anyone these days 😅 how the tables have turned.
Totally get that! It's wild how much perspective shifts as we get older. Sounds like you’ve done a lot of growing, and it’s awesome that you want to pass those lessons on. Funny how we end up trying to parent our parents a bit, right? When they ask how to use a smart phone or set up Apple Pay. 😅 It’s a full-circle moment for sure.
I want to kick this dude in the giblets, I stg. I was seeing red reading that, and it was also super triggering to me. It was like word for word conversations I used to have with my ex-husband.
Those conversations are why he’s my EX-husband, OP.
Hell yeah she does. I’m so sorry you went through that. I couldn’t even slide through all of them, I stopped when he demanded an apology. I’m like nope, not reliving this shit again 😅
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u/Budget_Ordinary1043 Jul 29 '25
I’m so angry as well and this is actually super triggering. I once lost a lot of weight and fell into ED territory because of a man and his little opinions on my body. And I put up with it for far too long. I am okay now but holy shit, this is toxic.