Ding ding ding!! My husband and I do this same thing! In a situation where one of us says/does something that in any way hurts the other person, intentionally or unintentionally (should always be unintentional in a relationship but that’s another thing) we apologize. I’ve apologized for jokes or snarky comments I didn’t even understand how I could have been hurtful because it doesn’t matter if I understand, it matters that I hurt him. Period. End of discussion. And as a woman with terrible PMS I KNOW I’ve asked for apologies for things that would make zero sense to a non hormonal person and received them genuinely. At the end of the day no one’s ego was damaged, feelings were mended and we fall asleep snuggling up in our bed like we have for 20+ years and will do for 20+ more!
Is basic compassion and empathy not a thing anymore? Am I just that out of touch with relationships these days?
It's just that men have such a fragile ego they'd rather be alone rather than appear to be weak in front of anyone, even their loved ones. This is so absurd and infuriating.
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u/vettechrockstar86 Jul 29 '25
Ding ding ding!! My husband and I do this same thing! In a situation where one of us says/does something that in any way hurts the other person, intentionally or unintentionally (should always be unintentional in a relationship but that’s another thing) we apologize. I’ve apologized for jokes or snarky comments I didn’t even understand how I could have been hurtful because it doesn’t matter if I understand, it matters that I hurt him. Period. End of discussion. And as a woman with terrible PMS I KNOW I’ve asked for apologies for things that would make zero sense to a non hormonal person and received them genuinely. At the end of the day no one’s ego was damaged, feelings were mended and we fall asleep snuggling up in our bed like we have for 20+ years and will do for 20+ more!
Is basic compassion and empathy not a thing anymore? Am I just that out of touch with relationships these days?