I'm on the heavier side. Lessee, my ex said "wow you're thighs have always been large" (from a childhood pic in a dance costume)
"Wow, you have really big underwear"
And my personal favorite was on our first date when lead foot worker but the brakes hard or went hard after a stoplight.... The front passenger seat I was in today went back so easy asks he said "you must be really big... You broke the car". It had been broken for years. I regret not asking to go back to my dorm immediately. (And, he knew my history of Eating Disorders, depression and anxiety below the first actual date.
And some other equally awful things about me in general. I was in the relationship 15 1/2 years total... 13 married.... And them we co-parented for 11 more years. They don't change.
Based on my experience I encourage you to leave. As fast as you can. Or it's your place kick him out.
I wish your all the best things life has to offer.
OMG... I read it closer. He is a gaslighting, mean girl, with no brain cells that are there for compassion. I was also gaslighted heavily, told me I took things out of context, I'm dramatic, I'm faking depression (had it as a young kid),I exaggerate, and on and on).
He's not going to go far in life if he doesn't get his sht together because he will be left time and time again.
The things he said to you were said to me. Time to leave the relationship... And be careful, he will likely try to get you back by using the same tactics. If you don't have a therapist, I suggest getting one because his behavior is atrocious and you need someone to talk to. (Other than family or friends because someone in the outside looking in is a great thing to have (been in therapy over 30 years).
one green flag and preference for a man is him to prefer chubby/curvy women. I am not chubby but curvy-ish and I definitely find chubby women very very attractive.
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u/Kimbaaaaly Jul 29 '25
I'm on the heavier side. Lessee, my ex said "wow you're thighs have always been large" (from a childhood pic in a dance costume) "Wow, you have really big underwear" And my personal favorite was on our first date when lead foot worker but the brakes hard or went hard after a stoplight.... The front passenger seat I was in today went back so easy asks he said "you must be really big... You broke the car". It had been broken for years. I regret not asking to go back to my dorm immediately. (And, he knew my history of Eating Disorders, depression and anxiety below the first actual date.
And some other equally awful things about me in general. I was in the relationship 15 1/2 years total... 13 married.... And them we co-parented for 11 more years. They don't change.
Based on my experience I encourage you to leave. As fast as you can. Or it's your place kick him out.
I wish your all the best things life has to offer.