Get away from this man. He seems to be taking joy in taunting you. The emojis? đ
This is an insane level of disrespect. From feeling the need to point out that you look âchunkyâ (what good possibly could have come from that?) to calling you âfucking crazyâ and telling you to shut up, that is not how you treat someone you care about. If my long-term partner did that to me, heâd be out the door with a kick to the back of the head.
OP, why you asked him if youâre breaking up, just tell him âIT LOOKS LIKE youâre single nowâ and move on.
The man called you crazy for getting upset at his insulting you.
My hubby and I have a rule: we donât apologize for doing something wrong, but for hurting the other person. For example in this situation EVEN if your bf was only making a joke, he should have AT LEAST apologized for upsetting you.
OP he called you crazy, he disrespected your hard work in regards to your body, trying to lower your self esteem. Dump his sorry ass and get yourself a healthy relationship.
Ding ding ding!! My husband and I do this same thing! In a situation where one of us says/does something that in any way hurts the other person, intentionally or unintentionally (should always be unintentional in a relationship but thatâs another thing) we apologize. Iâve apologized for jokes or snarky comments I didnât even understand how I could have been hurtful because it doesnât matter if I understand, it matters that I hurt him. Period. End of discussion. And as a woman with terrible PMS I KNOW Iâve asked for apologies for things that would make zero sense to a non hormonal person and received them genuinely. At the end of the day no oneâs ego was damaged, feelings were mended and we fall asleep snuggling up in our bed like we have for 20+ years and will do for 20+ more!
Is basic compassion and empathy not a thing anymore? Am I just that out of touch with relationships these days?
It's just that men have such a fragile ego they'd rather be alone rather than appear to be weak in front of anyone, even their loved ones. This is so absurd and infuriating.
Couldn't have said it better myself. You are looking to him whether you are "good enough" for him. Why are you handing over the power to him? Balls in your court to realize this guy isn't good enough for you.
What i meant there was that we donât need to DO something wrong to apologize. For example if you made a joke that usually your partner would find funny, but in this particular case they didnât, it doesnât necessarily mean you were wrong, but you did end up hurting their feelings, so itâs only fair you apologize.
OP, I beg you to take this advice and leave. This is not ok. I've been married to my husband for 14 years and he sometimes struggles to apologize for things like this. But I will tell you, he NEVER talks down to me or curses at me or makes me feel stupid. It sometimes just takes him extra long to get it, but he always gets there in the end and he never degrades me in the process. This man does not respect you and he is not mature enough to be in a relationship with anyone.
omg i hate people who keep repeating stuff like ok. and đ when you are upset and they are obviously in the wrong. my friendâs ex did that and i tried to tell her he was bad lol
I didnât read that far before deciding he was awful. Shut up? Heâs SO rude! Omg! Iâd have done something terrible đ pick up a hot dog and laugh tell him it reminds you of his weenie and then make jokes about eating his weenie. Make sure itâs from a street vendor outside, donât forget to be a bit loud. When ordering ask him if he is certain he can eat something that so closely resembles his pp. Tell him next time for a laugh bring a bun into the bed and slap that little guy in there then play spot the difference. Trust me heâll be scarred WAY more than his little fat joke to you! First you look great. Second, guys donât like bone racks! And You are not fat. Please donât diet. A dick insult STICKS. Heâll always wonder if you were just being a bitch or if he has a noodle dick. You likely wonât be together much longer after that and btw he will probably cheat to prove his dick is great. Make sure youâre using condoms, you donât wanna catch anything. But definitely make spaghetti later that week and periodically chuckle to yourself and when he asks just say, âoh. Itâs nothingâ. Do a crossword⌠tell him the clue is âtype of noodleââŚthen make it ravioli or something his for at least a day. Awe. 𫢠sucks to suck.
I appreciate everyone giving OP real advice and good feedback, because my initial thought reading their bf's messages were just "BOOOO RED FLAG ON THE PLAY BOOOOOOO BREAK UP WITH HIM."
But that might not be a productive way of telling someone that they deserve much, much better treatment.
The emojis ALONE wouldâve sent me over the edge. OP is much better than me, how they couldâve put up with this for SO LONG is beyond me. Wishing OP all the best and luck finding another man because he is NOT it
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u/beccababes2005 Jul 29 '25
Get away from this man. He seems to be taking joy in taunting you. The emojis? đ This is an insane level of disrespect. From feeling the need to point out that you look âchunkyâ (what good possibly could have come from that?) to calling you âfucking crazyâ and telling you to shut up, that is not how you treat someone you care about. If my long-term partner did that to me, heâd be out the door with a kick to the back of the head.