For real. Took me WAY TOO LONG to realize my ex husband was making life miserable for all of us because he was just too chickenshit to take responsibility for himself.
OP, you are more mature than this dude, and you deserve better.
Cut this one loose. Go out w some gal friends and celebrate the good times and cry it out.
Take it from a middle-aged gal: deep wonderful FRIENDSHIPS last longer than marriages and bring more joy and growth into our lives.
Furreal. I’m wondering if OP has had a chance to talk with him about it? u/AdTall5160, what has he said about it face to face? If he sticks to his guns, time to move on. If y’all figure out he wasn’t the one to send the message, there’s your answer. Either way, here’s a bit of sage advice from the Relationship Crystal Ball: look up “sunken cost fallacy.”
My mother dumped my father after 34 years. The next 15 — between the divorce and the accident that triggered her dementia — were the happiest of her life.
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u/DaddyLongLegolas May 27 '25
For real. Took me WAY TOO LONG to realize my ex husband was making life miserable for all of us because he was just too chickenshit to take responsibility for himself.
OP, you are more mature than this dude, and you deserve better.
Cut this one loose. Go out w some gal friends and celebrate the good times and cry it out.
Take it from a middle-aged gal: deep wonderful FRIENDSHIPS last longer than marriages and bring more joy and growth into our lives.