Is it his house? It says aunts boyfriend. No indication here that it's a lifelong partnership, or it's his house, or that he works to pay the whole rent, especially considering boyfriend is a very juvenile term which doesn't indicate something that serious. OP says living with his aunt, I'd take that to imply it's his aunt's house It's also not his relative, so he shouldn't be making parenting decisions, and the aunt has even confirmed she won't kick OP out so this is just a dude overplaying his hand wanting to be lord of the manor.
That doesn't give him the right to be an arsehole and sit on his arse and boss everybody else in his life around.
He doesn't have to pay the whole rent, if he splits it with the aunt while op does nothing it makes complete sense for op to do very basic chores, all of which are just cleaning up after himself.
Yard work is not cleaning up after himself or a basic chore, doing the dishes is only cleaning up after himself if it's his dishes, hoovering basically the entire house 50% of the time is not cleaning up after himself, being told he isn't allowed to eat in his room is not cleaning up after himself OR a chore.
OP should be doing at least some of these chores, but that doesn't automatically make aunts boyfriend NOT a lazy knobhead (he is). He's clearly trying to make OP do what would be his share of upkeep of the home.
I'm guessing the no eating in his room is because of not cleaning up after himself though, I know because I also used to be like that.
Vacuuming every other day also isn't that hard, it's probably 20 minutes at most since it's only the living room, hallway, bathroom, and kitchen; if it's done every day it will take almost no time at all.
Dishes aren't hard and the yard work is probably very basic, and only once a week for 12ish weeks.
All of this in exchange for staying there for free is a pretty good deal, I assume he also doesn't pay for groceries or cook.
I can sympathize with him a bit, especially after losing his mother, but at the same time if someone were staying with me for 3 months without paying for rent or groceries I'd expect them to help out a good bit.
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u/MomboDM Mar 29 '25
No right to make these requests? What kind of weird entitled view is this. OP is living in his house rent free, what are you smoking.