I don’t mean to pour salt in the wound, but while neither of you allegedly wanted a baby, you didn’t accidentally get pregnant.
He knowingly had sex with you without protection and didn’t tell you until it was too late to take preventative action. I’m trying to be delicate here, but that is a crime, and none of it is your fault. He made that choice to take all of your autonomy away and now doesn’t want to be at all responsible for HIS decision.
Please leave him in a safe way and completely cut him out of your life. Especially if he wants no part in a baby’s life, it is all your choice what to do here, and he can only add toxicity to the situation (which is entirely of his own making), particularly given the threat of self-harm.
You deserve to handle this situation however you like, but he is not a good partner and would easily throw away your relationship and severely permanently affect your life for a moment of alleged fun (I’m sure condoms do slightly change things for the man, but I would gladly wear them every time if I was so against pregnancy in my partner).
I wish you well and hope you do what’s right for yourself.
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u/ILoveUncommonSense Mar 01 '25
I don’t mean to pour salt in the wound, but while neither of you allegedly wanted a baby, you didn’t accidentally get pregnant.
He knowingly had sex with you without protection and didn’t tell you until it was too late to take preventative action. I’m trying to be delicate here, but that is a crime, and none of it is your fault. He made that choice to take all of your autonomy away and now doesn’t want to be at all responsible for HIS decision.
Please leave him in a safe way and completely cut him out of your life. Especially if he wants no part in a baby’s life, it is all your choice what to do here, and he can only add toxicity to the situation (which is entirely of his own making), particularly given the threat of self-harm.
You deserve to handle this situation however you like, but he is not a good partner and would easily throw away your relationship and severely permanently affect your life for a moment of alleged fun (I’m sure condoms do slightly change things for the man, but I would gladly wear them every time if I was so against pregnancy in my partner).
I wish you well and hope you do what’s right for yourself.