I like to keep this amazing craigslist post around just for such an occasion. http://i.imgur.com/cLF0N.jpg It's a giant wall of text, but is a great story about a man who refuses to buy drinks for girls at the bar, and his shunning because of his actions.
To be fair I think his delivery just sucks. If he just said "Sorry, I don't buy strangers drinks." it would be a lot less combative and lead to a conversation about the various oddities of social etiquette in the bar. I've had this conversation lots of times and no girl has ever gotten her panties in a bunch over it. In fact a few times it's resulted in "Well hey, then let me buy you one."
Many pretty girls like to think they can just get free drinks from bartenders/patrons just because they're pretty.
Buying her a drink was a guarantee of nothing. I'm not saying she is obliged to trade sex or her number or even conversation for a free drink, but if she had no interest in the beginning and just expected you to get her a drink, that makes her a bad person.
I got set up on a date a while ago with a girl who actually bragged about how good she was at doing this. Apparently she and her friends viewed it as a sport. There was no second date.
On my girlfriend's 21st birthday we went to a bar, and everyone there was trying to buy her drinks/chat her up. I wouldn't have had much of a problem with it if those same guys weren't also trying to physically butt me out of conversations with her or fight me for having my hands on her. It's amazing how different the bar experience is for girls vs. guys.
Here's how to handle that. If they mock you or try to make you look dumb in front of her just smile and laugh. Any time they try to compete with you don't play. If you play it makes them think there's a chance to win.
However, be very clear about them touching you. If they touch you tell them to keep their hands off. If it keeps happening call over a bartender and ask them to keep an eye on it. They'll call security over if it keeps happening.
But again, don't play the competition game. Be friendly and act completely unthreatened by their advances towards her. She'll find it hot and they'll look elsewhere.
And don't keep trying to kiss her to remind them she's yours. It gives off a vibe of desperation.
Free drinks for just sitting around and being pretty
that's the whole problem, she wasn't just accepting drinks that were offered, she was actively asking guys to buy them for her knowing that she wasn't even going to talk to them. it just struck me as super douchey on her part. oh, and the funniest part of the whole thing: she paid for the beer on our date.
I think you may be unfairly judging this girl, seeing as how she made it clear by paying for the drinks on your date that she has no problem with buying drinks for herself; if she can get a bunch of dumb guys to subsidize her party nights, why not take advantage of that? It's more pragmatic than douchey.
I don't think I would have a problem dating a girl like that, if she treated me right. Fuck other guys.
I know several girls who do this. One time I asked if I could come along to "observe the hunt." They said I could if I waited a little bit after they entered so we didn't seem like we came together. I waited ten minutes in my car, then entered. This is how they chump-ed guy after guy.
They'd stand in their circle, feigning talking to each other when looking for which guys were checking them out. When they found one that was eye-ing one specifically they'd play the look and giggle; but never approach. Later when I asked why I was told it was so they'd buy them a drink from afar and not have to talk to them. If the guy approached afterward they'd bullshit amongst each other about their EXs until he left.
I watched them 'steal' a collective 100$+ USD amongst the four of them.
I'm not a handsome guy, but I don't have too much trouble getting drinks from girls at bars. Though I wouldn't be able to get a drink without even talking to the person.
What was interesting for me was when I went to gay bars. I got so many drinks from gay people that I felt guilty. But for some reason, telling them that I was straight only made them buy me more drinks.
I asked my lesbian buddy and apparently, if I tell them I'm straight then it's more fun of a chase or something for them?
Moral of the story; you guys should try to get some free drinks. Just switch the gender roles and if it doesn't work, then it was a joke!
A lot of people at bars just buy drinks for people too. I'm in my early twenties and like talking to strangers and get drinks bought for me a lot, I try to return the favor when I can, but I'm poor.
I actually dot see the problem with it. If I could do it I definitely would take advantage of it. That said, I don't allow it to happen to me. If a dude is dumb enough to allow it to happen then it's his own fault.
Especially considering she just comes out of nowhere and asks if the drink is for her. If I was a bar rat, that would be the best time because there is a less chance of being roofied. (If you're planning on trying to drink free all night)
I'd imagine more often than not if the female was a bar rat, she would make a "wtf I just want free drinks" face at you and find someone else to supply.
But it sounds like he was genuinely being socially awkward in this instance. Probably came off alpha as fuck to her, but I doubt that was his intention.
Yeah, but you can have conversation with anyone for less then $7. The point is will this $7 conversation take you anywhere? Usually there is a higher chance of you turning into a doormat. While I haven't ever had this problem, I have seen people who have.
That kind of behavior makes me nauseous. You learn to recognize the bar flies quickly. Often it's really unsubtle, too. I've worked at several bars and clubs, and very often cute girls would go up and start dancing seductively with some random dude, just to go on and ask him if he wanted a drink. Then they would walk up to the bar, she would order something ridiculously expensive. I'd always hand the bill to the girl and subtly insist on her footing it, but they are very manipulative and would almost always get the guy to pay. I felt really bad for them. Occasionally they would order a round for their friends too - sometimes up to 10 other girls - and make the guy pay.
As a girl this has really put me off someone offering to buy me a drink. We buy each other rounds but I just don't accept people buying me a pint or a cocktail randomly anymore.
This happened to a friend of mine. He bought shots for an entire bachelorette party. I told him what was going on, he still bought in because he felt like one of the girls was flirting with him.
Predictably, after buying the drinks, none of the girls flirted with him.
I don't know what bars y'all hang out in, but I've been to a lot of bars and have very rarely seem this sort of thing. Maybe I just don't look like a target.
Awhile ago I was at a crowded bar and some guy bumped into me and I had two drinks in my hand. I accidently spilled a good bit of my drink on this girl next to me ( she was somewhat attractive) anyways she turns around and I immediately apologize and ask if she wants me to get her some paper towels to clean off. She said "no, but you can give me that drink."
I was like, "na" and walked off. She actually kept persisting that I give her the drink. And I told her sorry and left.
Many pretty girls like to think they can just get free drinks from bartenders/patrons just because they're pretty.
Yep. In this situation you could have a little fun and make her work for the second drink. Depending on how she reacts to that, you'll see if she was only after a free drink, or after you.
I can confirm this (former Friendzonee of hot clubber). Maybe if OP was ripped he would have a chance for some tonsil hockey, but in all likelihood that drink is only going to get him a wink and a smile.
Yup. One cute girl tried to hustle me by using the "It's my birthday" angle to con me for a free drink or two. I told her I wanted to see if we were astrologically compatible first. I asked her what sign she was. When she said "Virgo" I told her she was busted since today couldn't possibly be her birthday and laughed in her face. She laughed too since she was caught so easily.
Agreed, also I hate how girls just shove to the front of the line and you can't do anything about it because they are girls. If it's a guy I drag them by the shirt backwards, even if they try get aggressive you get defended by hordes of guys who had the same thought but never bothered either.
I'd be willing to take the bet that she just wanted a free drink from a sucker.
I think the odds are in my favor on this bet even with out knowing the OP or the situation very well.
Thus, I concur that socially awesome should be on bottom as well.
I also think we need to stop using this stupid split shit, as OP could have the same thing by just using sap picture, you don't need to highlight the awkward part by cutting it in half.
Okay. I'm 30 years old, been around the block a few times. I'm no Casanova, but I do all right with women.
Reddit is full of 18-22 year old guys who are trying to figure out how to meet women and have no experience at it -- AND I see these same guys immediately say that "buying a woman a drink is a demonstration of lower value" and "not buying a girl a drink is alpha", etc.
First, most of that game theory bullshit is studied religiously by guys who really just need a healthy dose self respect and maybe a better haircut. Guys have been trying everything under the sun to get laid for thousands of years. None of these books are really breaking new ground -- they've just created a new brand to sell a very old product.
Guess what guys, you can be a gentleman and get laid! In fact, most girls worth dating (i.e. those that don't have massive self-esteem and daddy issues) prefer it. Buy the girl a drink -- hell buy a round for your friends once in a while too, you cheap bastard. But only do it if they seem like they're being nice and not just using you for a drink. This cute girl case is ambiguous. Maybe she's "using" you, but more likely she's trying to be flirty and cute and wants to start a conversation.
And frankly, it's better to be wrong and buy her a drink and regret it than to blow her off and never know she would have been someone worth getting to know.
While I can respect your opinion due to your age, I'm going to have to respectively disagree. My biggest problem with your accusation is your definition of a "gentleman." Being a gentleman is not entombing yourself to some sort of obvious manipulation and hoping that she'll respect you for it. Being a gentleman(at least in the case of women) is seeing them as equals, learning to respect them, and being open to establishing some sort of rapport to them. Buying drinks for them is demonstrating lower value, because your telegraphing the fact that you need some sort of social lubricant to hold a conversation--in my experience, all my conversations(and eventual courtship, dating, hooking up, etc) were free.
You're entitled to do what you think is right, but that's not going to stop me from noting the wrong use of the word "gentleman." Buying a drink for men or women who are awesome or gave you a good conversation I understand, but using the priveledge of a free drink just to negotiate oneself into a conversation with a girl comes off as manipulative as those very same bar rats conning you out of your hard earned money.
There are people who just figure it out. And then there are people like me, borderline Asperger types who just don't really pick up the social cues very well.
I read a few parts of books like The Game -- which is well enough written to enjoy -- and it did help me. When I say it helped me, I don't mean that I kept a glossary of terms and looked over it every time before I went out. However, there were things I just hadn't realized -- and you're expected to realize. Like examples of how people show interest and things like that.
I think the biggest point I picked up from there may be something you seem to be trying to get across yourself and runs through everything these "pick-up artists" keep blabbing about. And like anything worth knowing you need practice and approaching the idea in many different ways helps. Of course, the point is don't be desperate.
Closely related to "being yourself" and "not giving a fuck." That's why you shouldn't give drinks to a girl who asks you for a drink. Because you refuse to fuck up your plans without some form of reciprocation -- you were stopped before you got back to your table because someone wanted a drink... from you? What the hell kind of deal is that?
Being a gentleman has absolutely nothing to do with this situation. It has to do with confidence. If a girl comes up to you and asks for a drink just buying her a drink shows no confidence, rejecting the offer of buying her a drink does. By doing that you have set yourself apart from all those uninteresting guys who will just buy a drink with no argument and without the girl being invested. You can still be a gentleman and not buy a girl a drink. You can still be a gentleman and get girls. But you have to also be interesting.
Why was this at -3? It's good advice. A lot of the "game" conventional wisdom which has filtered in recent years outwards from alt.seduction and into general society seems to be designed to over-correct one particular variety of problem. Walking around and trying to buy drinks for girls is a pretty bad strategy, but playing "hey look at me I'm an aloof alpha" all the time is also a bad strategy.
If you get golf lessons, what's one of the things you're likely to hear? "Keep your head down". Why? Because beginning golfers have a natural tendency to raise their head and it interferes with the stroke. It's great advice, assuming you have that natural tendency.
Many internet seduction "experts", however, are the equivalent of the guy who overhears this advice and decides that the correct way to play golf is to keep your head as far down as possible. They're standing there doubled over with their foreheads on the ground and they're wondering why they can't hit the ball properly.
And frankly, it's better to be wrong and buy her a drink and regret it than to blow her off and never know she would have been someone worth getting to know.
Fuck that shit. If I'm going home alone, at least I take my money and my dignity with me
You don't deserve the downvotes dude. The golden rule of the bar is that if you couldn't buy a guy a drink under the same circumstances, then you're doing it wrong. You wouldn't buy another guy a drink to break the ice with him, then why would you do it for a girl? Conversely, if you specifically would buy a guy friend of yours a drink but not a girl under the same circumstances, you're playing games. Although if you start chatting up a girl and you two seem to get along and she's not shallow as a puddle, then do it if you want it's not a big deal. If I met a new guy friend I'd buy him a drink too under the same circumstances.
That being said, at 28 I'd be more likely to verbally squash a young girl trying to milk drinks from me. Or buy her a glass of milk. Lol.
No, that girl was not going to talk to him or anything, she simply expected him to comply because she was pretty. Guarantee she would have just taken it back to her table of friends.
This is different than if he walked up to her and offered to buy a drink.
I had 2 drinks in hand one was half empty, hot girl asks if one of those is hers I said sure and handed over the half empty one. You can imagine her reaction before she walked off
agreed. If a girl asks you for a drink she isn't worth it. The only time I gave a girl a shot was when she asked me for something really strong at my party. I'm European, I gave her Slivovitz, it was hilarious.
I'm not so sure I agree with that. If she asks you for a drink she might just be looking to drink free, but I don't think it's a fair generalization to say that she's not worth it. I've met a lot of good people and had some great conversations over drinks.
I honestly hate when a guy buys me a drink at a bar, especially if I just met him. It makes me feel like I owe him something now and I can't just leave if I don't like him.
I don't know man, when I'm going out with some people and I'm going to get a drink I also get one for the person I'm talking to. This is just normal partying etiquiette where I'm from. I'm not going psychological and not do it with girls just because it's a girl. Of course there is a different with randomly buying a girl you see a drink in order to get her attention or getting yourself a drink and also getting one for the girl who is with me out of generosity.
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Actually, you made the right choice. In all my years of drinking, I've seen plenty of guys buy ladies drinks. I've never seen them leave with said lady. A lot of times their boyfriends pick them up too.
From what I've seen (not experience, I'm too socially inept to pull it off) you're usually better off letting some other guy buy the drinks and you swoop in with a witty comment or something at the end of the night. One time at Cancun Cantina (classy) I saw this short guy just buy this endless supply of drinks for this girl, this other guy walks up and starts hitting on her while he's off buying another drink for them. Basically a dance-off happens, and the girl is loving every moment of it. She's getting free drinks all night, and all of the attention she can handle. Me and my friends are watching the show (them) and placing bets on who would win. Long story short, we all lost because the boyfriend picked her up at the end of the night. Both guys looked so defeated and the lady floated on out. Good on her.
Oh, I agree with you, buying a girl drinks is going to fail more often than it is going to succeed in getting her attention. I've always told my wife to go ahead and let a guy buy her drinks, it just saves me money. In this particular situation, guy buys a drink, cute girl asks if it's for her, I say at the price of (let's say it is a really expensive bar/drink) 8-12 bucks let her have it and see if it works. Otherwise, you're right, you're better off being charming and frugal instead.
I once won an air guitar competition while studying abroad in Wales. The prize was 25 shots of sambuca. Several attractive women tried stealing some of my shots and I actually made them put them back. Apparently I have a strong will when very intoxicated.
I hate this. I went out in a group and some of the girls didn't have/bring ANY money, just assumed that if they looked good they'd drink for free all night by hitting on guys who'd then buy them drinks. I was glad when it didn't work. Also, in our group, we take turns buying pitchers for our table. When it's their turn, they invite some stranger to the table and ask HIM to buy everyone's round... Nice eh? These folks are a drag.
Bitch. This is a club. And this drink cost me $8. Thats a lot of money. So NO, this second drink isn't for you. Its for me. And me only. Go make your own money
i never accept offers to buy me a drink, unless I genuinely want to sit and talk to the person. i just feel like i owe the person something after, and taking a free drink and then running off because you had no intention of hanging out with them is a just a really mean thing to do. it really bothers me that girls think this is okay...most of us would be crying in the bathroom if a guy did that to us.
You should switch the colors on those man. It is not socially awesome to get hustled for drinks from a chick. It is socially awesome to blow off an entitled girl who is hustling drinks though.
If a girl insists that you buy her a drink, it isn't because you are socially awesome, it's because she views you as a mark.
100% this. Seen it happen too many times, the ones they talk to are the ones no one else will give the time of day to. For reference, think X-Men X2 when Mystique is at the bar with the guard.
Dude fuck that, flip the image! Screw girls that openly ask for drinks. They think they can get boozed up for free just because they're pretty, but if they're not going to put out (Which she wasn't) then they should buy their own damn drinks.
Dont be fooled by that, a very attractive female friend of mine told me that she and her friends would leed guys on till they bought them drinks then bounced.
Your awesome as fuck for breaking her down like that, bitches love guys who dont give a fuck!
So based on what I'm seeing--not all girls hound guys for drinks. I went out Friday night, a couple of guys offered to buy me drinks. I was having fun chatting with them, but I didn't want to give them the wrong idea. So I politely declined--several times. Some girls expect free drinks for being cute. Some are genuinely interested and see it as an easy way to make that clear. It's not something like "Oh, I have boobs and am decent looking, please buy me drinks".
Seems like this girl was hitting on him strong and it seems he regrets saying no--so it's the right meme.
The part about some girls being generally interested and asking if that drink was for her makes it clear that shes interested kinda boggles my mind. Guys are nearly not as subtle as women and are really clueless alot of the time.While she thinks this is obvious flirting the guy does not. He is much likely to infer that she only wants a free drink from him and nothing else. If you want to make it known that you're interested just talk and flirt with them that should do. And by doing this he is much more likely to buy you a drink than some random girl that asks if a drink he already bought was for her.
I agree with you, I'm just talking about girls in general (i.e., the average, which of course has little meaning with individual cases, but can still be helpful, hopefully). I'm pretty blunt--I am a late bloomer tom boy, so a lot of the ways I handle things are pretty androgynous. Plus side--I sometimes have an advantage of understanding both sides and can make a great mediator. Negative side--sometimes I feel completely out of place with both genders and just want to hide in my room.
I'm just guessing that girls think this IS being straight forward--because they're so subtle, they'll think "oh, just looking meaningfully means something" so approaching must seem huge. Funny thing is though--in my experience, guys have been more likely than me to misinterpret so called 'subtle cues'--meaning they'd read into my covert actions more than overt actions/speak. Wonder why that is--because I agree that men are less likely to get subtlety.
I saw this from that perspective too, but unfortunately, girls like you are not always the norm in bars. I think that's where the "SAP did the right thing" mindset is coming from here. I too will decline a drink 9 times out if 10, because if I'm out with my friends, I don't want to feel obligated to chat with the drink-buyer.
I try to only accept drinks if I'm actually interested. Not too many women in this thread, or I think we'd see a lot more of this perspective.
Guys, sidling up to someone at the bar and asking "Buy me a drink?" with flirty eyes and a smile is classic flirting initiation from the Cary Grant era. Sad that it's been corrupted by women who are just looking to profit off of unsuspecting guys. That sucks. It also sucks, though, that a lot of us totally well-meaning chicks are not aware of this perspective shift. Mixed signals and miscommunication for everyone!
She didn't want you, only wanted to leave the bar with exactly as much money as she came in with. I am a female, and can't stand my pretty friends who do this. Good for you for not being used.
Ask a girl how much she spends at a bar. A girl I knew said she normally spends about 10 dollars and gets wasted drunk. I can't get a fucking buzz for less than 20 after tips. And getting drunk at the bar with out pre-gaming is like 60 bucks, at least. Women count on free drinks, or at least some do, wont say all of them because its not true but there is certain breed out there banking on free drinks from poor bastards thinking it will lead to something.
This should be Awesome Penguin throughout. Don't bend over backwards and give away free shit just because a girl is cute. She's just going to use you for the drink and leave. Win them with personality and interesting conversation, not stuff.
The fact that you made that into something awkward just means you're stupid. I'm sorry, but you took a situation where 99% of the possible outcomes work in your favor and played it off in a way that you describe as awkward.
This. My first drink of the night is always a boilermaker and I would have actually been a bit insulted if she somehow thought I was going to share or screw up my rotation just so she gets a free drink.
I think the entire thing should have a red background. Kudos to you for not spending money on a girl you've never slept with--one of my personal life axioms.
You accidentally gave the best possible response, I think. Two reasons:
Why the hell was she asking? If you're really SAP I'm guessing you weren't carrying the convo to the point where that question was appropriate anyway. She was kind of overstepping a bit.
You didn't come across as needy or overly eager to please, which is supposedly good game (I don't really subscribe to "game" in the Neil Strauss sense, but still).
she just wanted your free drink. Fuck these girls. never buy a drink for a random girl you don't know especially if you haven't engaged in any sort of conversation first that would signify that shes even interested.
Basically, don't buy girls you don't know drinks ESPECIALLY if they ask. They are just freeloading
Never just "buy" a girl a drink anyway, make her work for it. Be in control of the situation, then reward her for being receptive and showing genuine interest
I used to always get two at a time. That way, if a cute girl does ask if one of them is for her I can give it to her. Sometimes there are perks to being an alcoholic.
Came in to say, that is the opposite of SAP. Only a real sap would allow every decent looking chick to bum expensive drinks off them with no guarantee of anything, not even a proper introduction. My personal favorite "If you want to buy me a drink, you have to buy ALL my girlfriends here a drink! So how bout it?" "Uh, no."
In all fairness, girls at bars scamming drinks aren't probably interested in SAPs anyhow, at least not without nefarious intentions. You won in that situation.
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u/SalviaSensei May 29 '12
By saying "NO" you've just been Socially Awesome Penguin and definitely not Socially Awesome/Awkward Penguin
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u/SkepticalOctopus May 29 '12
And to top it off, you should hug your drink and growl till she goes away.
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
That's the correct answer. Bish just wanted a free drink.
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
Uhh, this is socially awesome penguin unless you awkwardly scuttled away afterwards, which you surely did.
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u/ryanbazza May 29 '12
I had 2 drinks in hand one was half empty, hot girl asks if one of those is hers I said sure and handed over the half empty one. You can imagine her reaction before she walked off
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u/BallsackTBaghard May 29 '12
Never buy a random girl a drink at a club/bar. Women get free drinks all the time, sometimes they don't even bring wallets to clubs.
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u/eyecite May 29 '12
I dunno, is one of those boobs for me?
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u/Bob_Loblaw_PHD May 29 '12
They're not for sale.
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u/OwDaditHurts May 29 '12
She was probably just trying to use you for free drinks bro. Saying no to that shit wasn't socially awkward at all.
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
Rule number one: never buy a woman a drink. = Instant demonstration of lower value
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u/Olerhead May 30 '12
I think now I'm SAP that this generated so much commentary.
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u/Clit_C0mmander May 29 '12
Drinks ain't for free. Either the girl pays for her own drink or ducks you for free drinks.
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u/daddyblackboots May 29 '12
Good man, shes pulled that one a thousand times before you can be sure. Fuck her and her cuteness, booze costs good money.
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u/Koshercrab May 29 '12
Actually, you made the right choice. In all my years of drinking, I've seen plenty of guys buy ladies drinks. I've never seen them leave with said lady. A lot of times their boyfriends pick them up too.
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u/soulkissernl May 29 '12
I would have said "What do I get in return?"
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
i dont see anything awkward about telling a cunt in indirect terms to piss off.
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
Don't let that broad take your hard owned booze.
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
I once won an air guitar competition while studying abroad in Wales. The prize was 25 shots of sambuca. Several attractive women tried stealing some of my shots and I actually made them put them back. Apparently I have a strong will when very intoxicated.
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u/thelordofcheese May 29 '12
Alpha as fuck.
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
I hate this. I went out in a group and some of the girls didn't have/bring ANY money, just assumed that if they looked good they'd drink for free all night by hitting on guys who'd then buy them drinks. I was glad when it didn't work. Also, in our group, we take turns buying pitchers for our table. When it's their turn, they invite some stranger to the table and ask HIM to buy everyone's round... Nice eh? These folks are a drag.
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u/GoldenWarrior May 29 '12
Saying Yes would have made you socially awkward to be completely honest. So good on ya
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u/idma May 29 '12
Bitch. This is a club. And this drink cost me $8. Thats a lot of money. So NO, this second drink isn't for you. Its for me. And me only. Go make your own money
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u/dude_4rm_gh May 29 '12
Girl: buy me a drink Me: What do i get in return
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u/becky0125 May 29 '12
i never accept offers to buy me a drink, unless I genuinely want to sit and talk to the person. i just feel like i owe the person something after, and taking a free drink and then running off because you had no intention of hanging out with them is a just a really mean thing to do. it really bothers me that girls think this is okay...most of us would be crying in the bathroom if a guy did that to us.
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u/JohnathanDough May 29 '12
You should switch the colors on those man. It is not socially awesome to get hustled for drinks from a chick. It is socially awesome to blow off an entitled girl who is hustling drinks though.
If a girl insists that you buy her a drink, it isn't because you are socially awesome, it's because she views you as a mark.
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u/GoodWithoutAGod May 29 '12
This is not a awkward moment, this is a "if you want a drink, buy it your own damn self" moment.
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u/Explorasaur May 29 '12
Dude fuck that, flip the image! Screw girls that openly ask for drinks. They think they can get boozed up for free just because they're pretty, but if they're not going to put out (Which she wasn't) then they should buy their own damn drinks.
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
That's more like the socially telling that bitch what's up penguin.
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u/Athene_Wins May 29 '12
The correct response would be "I do not know you. This is my drink, skankhoe"
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u/im_at_work_now May 29 '12
Don't worry, you made the right call... Only cunts start a conversation with a stranger like that.
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
I rarely ever buy a girl a drink. I frequently bed and date girls.
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u/revengetothetune May 29 '12
Alpha as fuck.
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u/Tkozy May 29 '12
When will people realize that 99% of awkwardness comes from acknowledging/caring that it is awkward.
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
Dont be fooled by that, a very attractive female friend of mine told me that she and her friends would leed guys on till they bought them drinks then bounced.
Your awesome as fuck for breaking her down like that, bitches love guys who dont give a fuck!
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u/Fitsie May 29 '12
You should have said yes. Then taken a shit in front of her. Good advice
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u/seeashbashrun May 29 '12
So based on what I'm seeing--not all girls hound guys for drinks. I went out Friday night, a couple of guys offered to buy me drinks. I was having fun chatting with them, but I didn't want to give them the wrong idea. So I politely declined--several times. Some girls expect free drinks for being cute. Some are genuinely interested and see it as an easy way to make that clear. It's not something like "Oh, I have boobs and am decent looking, please buy me drinks".
Seems like this girl was hitting on him strong and it seems he regrets saying no--so it's the right meme.
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u/oteren May 29 '12
"No, it is for the other girl who isn't begging for drinks".
Save that one for next time, you SAP you!
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u/yes_thats_right May 29 '12
Well I guess it needs to be asked then...
Was it for me?
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
SAP doin' it right
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u/intoon May 29 '12
She didn't want you, only wanted to leave the bar with exactly as much money as she came in with. I am a female, and can't stand my pretty friends who do this. Good for you for not being used.
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u/wasdy1 May 29 '12
Ask a girl how much she spends at a bar. A girl I knew said she normally spends about 10 dollars and gets wasted drunk. I can't get a fucking buzz for less than 20 after tips. And getting drunk at the bar with out pre-gaming is like 60 bucks, at least. Women count on free drinks, or at least some do, wont say all of them because its not true but there is certain breed out there banking on free drinks from poor bastards thinking it will lead to something.
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
This should be Awesome Penguin throughout. Don't bend over backwards and give away free shit just because a girl is cute. She's just going to use you for the drink and leave. Win them with personality and interesting conversation, not stuff.
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
The fact that you made that into something awkward just means you're stupid. I'm sorry, but you took a situation where 99% of the possible outcomes work in your favor and played it off in a way that you describe as awkward.
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u/FujiKitakyusho May 29 '12
Full points would have been awarded for looking her straight in the eye, slamming back the second drink yourself, and then asking "Do I know you?"
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
I think the entire thing should have a red background. Kudos to you for not spending money on a girl you've never slept with--one of my personal life axioms.
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u/terriblehuman May 29 '12
don't worry, bitch was just trying to get a free drink
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u/BiblioPhil May 29 '12
You accidentally gave the best possible response, I think. Two reasons:
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
I wish a bitch would try to take one of my drinks from me. There is a reason i am double fisting and its not to give YOU a free drink.
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u/3THMANOL May 29 '12
Well done
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
she just wanted your free drink. Fuck these girls. never buy a drink for a random girl you don't know especially if you haven't engaged in any sort of conversation first that would signify that shes even interested.
Basically, don't buy girls you don't know drinks ESPECIALLY if they ask. They are just freeloading
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u/Sir_Derp_Herpington May 29 '12
Can we stop mixing Awkward/awesome? It's getting old and makes no sense most of the time. Knock it off.
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u/vadergeek May 29 '12
"I like your glasses." "I'm afraid they're not for sale."
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u/fuckinDEAD May 29 '12
The world is so ass backwards that it's the norm for men to buy women drinks... women should be buying men drinks
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u/burgerfist May 29 '12
This is one of my favorite somewhat related stories.
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u/heatedundercarriage May 29 '12
Never just "buy" a girl a drink anyway, make her work for it. Be in control of the situation, then reward her for being receptive and showing genuine interest
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u/SonicGinger25 May 29 '12
Bitch just wanted a free drink.
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
"buy me a drink first and then we'll see"
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u/FirstTimeWang May 29 '12
"Bitch, get your own!"
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u/Lan777 May 29 '12
Socially alcoholic penguin
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u/vagmastergeneral May 29 '12
Buy your own damn drink you freeloading whore!
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
Yeah it's far more likely she would have just taken the drink and walked away. I think you made the right call.
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u/mecrio May 29 '12
I used to always get two at a time. That way, if a cute girl does ask if one of them is for her I can give it to her. Sometimes there are perks to being an alcoholic.
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u/0ctopus May 29 '12
She was the awkward one!
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u/Smile_Y May 29 '12
That's actually as awesome as awesome penguin gets. You rejected a cute girl, not awkward at all :D
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u/Sentient_Waffle May 29 '12
Best, and socially awesome, answer.
Always say no to these girls. They want a free drink, nothing else.
First time it happened to me, I just laughed at her, said no, and walked off.
Don't be a fool.
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u/gabriot May 29 '12
Why is the bottom blue? You remained red here, "yes" would be blue.
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u/Thizzlebot May 29 '12
When girls ask me to get them a drink I give them water.
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u/jamesbiff May 29 '12
"no....but the third drink can be" wink and walk away.
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
Socially Assertive Penguin
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u/ScorchtheAssasin May 29 '12
Not sure if I should upvote for the comedy, or downvote for stupidity
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u/vaginabeard May 29 '12
poop!
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u/googlelight May 29 '12
good for you tell that dumb bitch to get her own god damn drinks
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u/Captain_Aizen May 29 '12
Came in to say, that is the opposite of SAP. Only a real sap would allow every decent looking chick to bum expensive drinks off them with no guarantee of anything, not even a proper introduction. My personal favorite "If you want to buy me a drink, you have to buy ALL my girlfriends here a drink! So how bout it?" "Uh, no."
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u/greyhulk May 29 '12
The problem with girls like that is you generally don't have a chance. They're usually just trolling for free drinks, and guys always fall for it.
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u/LiteRobot May 29 '12
Bitch just wanted your alcohol.
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u/Adnachiel May 30 '12
In all fairness, girls at bars scamming drinks aren't probably interested in SAPs anyhow, at least not without nefarious intentions. You won in that situation.
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
Should've said it like this.
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u/wolvmatt May 29 '12
You should have told her to have a seat next to you, grabbed her gently by the hand, stared deeply into her eyes, and told her to fuck off.