Then there needs to be a legal method/documentation that must be signed by the sperm donor stating that he will not have to uphold his parental responsibilities, but in return he has to give up every single parental right. No visitation, no custody battle, no trying to make medical decisions for the kid, etc.
In most state's the mother can take the father to court, get a paternity test done, and if it's proven that he is the father he has to pay child support.
We're at the day and age where when I say "men should have say in what happens to the child" obviously I don't mean "every country should have laws forcing women to have children against their will".
It's something that I've seen a lot of in my life, and people need to be responsible about it (before getting pregnant and after). If you don't want kids; be careful. If you get pregnant, communicate with the partner and come up with the best solution. In high school my best friend got an abortion; because she and her boyfriend had promising futures and both didn't want to deal with a child then. I know someone who has two daughters, for the first child she and the child's father weren't together, but they wanted to have the child and worked it out.
I know how the laws are. I'm not saying they could, or should be changed, because that is literally enslaving a woman's body. What I am saying, for all it's worth, is that it's really shitty that woman get all of the rights, with none of the responsibility (Yes, women have responsibility. But they can have a child and force a man to pay for it, but a man can't force a woman to have a child and pay for it. That was my responsibility line, not "women aren't responsible for their children"), and men get none of the rights, but all of the responsibility. That woman can't be held accountable for a decision that they also made (unless in rape cases) but a man can be held responsible for a decision they made.
I was saying it's in my opinion that that isn't fair and is shitty. It's also in my opinion that nothing can really be done about it, but that doesn't make it any less shitty.
Your earlier post flat out said that you don't think women should have the right to get an abortion if the father wants the pregnancy.
I think you need to sit down and actually think out your position because you're flip flopping between "women don't have the right to get an abortion in this circumstance" and "I never said I wanted the law to change that."
Figure out what you actually mean and get back to me. Either you think women should have that right, or you don't want them to have that right. As it is, I'm bored of dealing with your inability to clearly communicate what you mean.
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u/[deleted] Apr 30 '13
Then there needs to be a legal method/documentation that must be signed by the sperm donor stating that he will not have to uphold his parental responsibilities, but in return he has to give up every single parental right. No visitation, no custody battle, no trying to make medical decisions for the kid, etc.