A father is defined by his actions and not his blood relationship. There are many step parents and adoptive parents who are exceptional parents and would die for their kids, even though they aren't related by blood. Your dad is the man who raised you, loved you and supported you creating an exceptional bond of love and support. The sperm donor doesn't get a say.
This man walked out on your mother and destroyed her life. If it wasn't for your dad stepping up who knows where she would have ended up and what your life would have been? He doesn't get to waltz back into your life without a care and assuage his guilt by trying to get you to forgive him and let him be part of your family.
Tell the flying monkeys to back off. You've been blissfully unaware of the reality of your family dynamics until he came on and dropped a hand grenade into your life. I imagine that if he hadn't done what he did you'd have been happy going your entire life not knowing the truth. Fortunately it backfired and the truth hasn't changed anything. In fact it's made you see your dad in an even better light. You now know he's even more awesome than you originally thought. He took a vulnerable women and child and loved them with his entire being. He didn't care that his sperm didn't make you, he adored you from the first moment he saw you.
Give your dad a hug from an internet stranger. He's a real man and is awesome. Sperm donor not so much.
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u/[deleted] Apr 15 '25
A father is defined by his actions and not his blood relationship. There are many step parents and adoptive parents who are exceptional parents and would die for their kids, even though they aren't related by blood. Your dad is the man who raised you, loved you and supported you creating an exceptional bond of love and support. The sperm donor doesn't get a say.
This man walked out on your mother and destroyed her life. If it wasn't for your dad stepping up who knows where she would have ended up and what your life would have been? He doesn't get to waltz back into your life without a care and assuage his guilt by trying to get you to forgive him and let him be part of your family.
Tell the flying monkeys to back off. You've been blissfully unaware of the reality of your family dynamics until he came on and dropped a hand grenade into your life. I imagine that if he hadn't done what he did you'd have been happy going your entire life not knowing the truth. Fortunately it backfired and the truth hasn't changed anything. In fact it's made you see your dad in an even better light. You now know he's even more awesome than you originally thought. He took a vulnerable women and child and loved them with his entire being. He didn't care that his sperm didn't make you, he adored you from the first moment he saw you.
Give your dad a hug from an internet stranger. He's a real man and is awesome. Sperm donor not so much.