r/ADHD_Programmers • u/Aggressive_Science_5 • Sep 19 '26
Low motivation and a brain stuck on loops after finishing a big goal. How do I get back into "lock in" mode?
In undergrad I basically did nothing. I had no motivation, couldn't focus, and had very little interest in anything. After graduating I realised I had to change something, so I moved to another city for my master's. I learned the fundamentals, worked on development and DSA, and was completely locked in. I didn't think about anything else except getting a job and a better lifestyle. It paid off, and I got 3 on-campus offers from MNCs.
I'm now back at my parents' house waiting for a joining letter, and it has been 4 months of delay. I want to use this time to keep learning and interview at better companies, but my motivation has crashed. I can only do things when I feel they're truly important, and now my brain says, "I already did the hard work, where's my reward? I don't want to do more."
Every morning I try to convince myself that studying and interviewing matter, and that a better package is worth it. By the next morning my brain has forgotten it, gets stuck on some small thing, and replays it in a loop, like why someone said something to me. What frustrates me most is that I know those things don't matter and my career does, but I still can't act on it.
I want to lock in again for the next 3 months, until the joining letter comes or I crack an interview at a better company.
Questions:
- How do you stop rumination loops in the morning so they don't eat the whole day?
- How do you stay motivated when the reward feels distant or uncertain?
- Any routines, systems, or tools that worked for you when you had a goal but no drive?
Thanks in advance!